Created By: Masterweaver on October 27, 2011 Last Edited By: KyleJacobs on December 7, 2014

Reject The Abuse Victim's Advances

No romance for abuse victims until they have properly healed.

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After being saved from systematic abuse by someone or something, the rescue-ee tries to show the rescuer her gratitude in the most obvious way possible... and finds herself immediately rejected.

This is what happens when anyone decides that the love being proffered is, in fact, merely a desperate method of thanking the rescuer; generally, they turn the offer down because the one who offered was, quite potentially, psychologically unstable and might need therapy before considering normal relationships. Or perhaps they just do that sort of thing all the time and don't expect a reward. This of course leave the hero with the dilemma of what to do with the rejected lover, as they usually don't take no for an answer, and quite often insist on following them until they have proven that, yes, they actually do love their rescuer.

Examples:

Live-Action TV
  • In Angel, when the protagonist saves the Girl of the Week who has been abused/molested/etc., she tries to "pay him back" the way everybody always wants her to but he rejects it.

Video Games
Will go under Index to the Rescue, Abuse Tropes, and probably Unrequited Love Tropes. Needs More Examples. Needs a Better Title.
Community Feedback Replies: 28
  • October 27, 2011
    Lyendith
    Seems interesting but I can't think of any example...
  • October 28, 2011
    Koveras
    I've seen this, I swear, but I cannot think of any examples right now.
  • October 28, 2011
    69BookWorM69
    Yes, it does sound familiar, but I too am at a loss to cite chapter and verse. Will have to think about it.

    BTW the word is "dilemma" not "delimma".
  • October 28, 2011
    ChunkyDaddy
    Twilight? Isabella isn;t abused.. just bored. Edward refuses to turn her and dissapears in the second part because he would hurt her.
  • October 29, 2011
    FastEddie
    Needs a name that does not sound like dialog.
  • October 29, 2011
    peccantis
    Needs a name that doesn't sound like superhuman/human sex problems.
  • October 29, 2011
    Koveras
    ^ That'd be Man Of Steel Woman Of Kleenex, by the way.
  • October 31, 2011
    Koveras
    Well, not exactly a textbook example, but maybe this will count:

  • November 12, 2011
    Koveras
    So, anyone else remembered any examples yet?
  • November 20, 2011
    Koveras
    OP hasn't been spotted in almost a month, so I'm taking over this YKTTW. Revamped the write-up, need more examples.
  • November 20, 2011
    HiddenFacedMatt
    This could use a more concise title...
  • November 20, 2011
    randomsurfer
    I don't recall exactly what episode, but I'm pretty sure I've seen something like this on Angel. Angel saves the Girl Of The Week who has been abused/molested/etc., she tries to "pay him back" the way everybody always wants her to, he rejects it.
  • November 20, 2011
    Koveras
    @HiddenFacedMatt: I am all for a more concise title. Please leave your suggestions below. :)

    @randomsurfer: Thanks, adding.
  • November 20, 2011
    ThreeferFAQMinorityChick
    Thanks for the plug to Abuse Tropes. I've noticed that none of the sources for people undergoing abusive situations don't mention starting new romantic relationships at all. I'm sure that there must be Real Life examples, but I can't think of any specifics
  • November 29, 2011
    Koveras
    ^ I am afraid you have confused me with a double negative in the second sentence. ^^;
  • December 3, 2011
    Koveras
    Anyone? At this pace, this suggestion is heading for a discard lest it dies of old age...
  • June 19, 2014
    Hero_Gal_2347
    Bump.
  • June 20, 2014
    DAN004
    Does the abuser and the rescued had to be the same person?
  • June 20, 2014
    bitemytail
  • June 20, 2014
    Statzkeen
    This is annoying; I too know I've seen it before but can't think of examples.
  • June 20, 2014
    paycheckgurl
    Removed a hat. Needs More Examples than just two.
  • June 20, 2014
    KyleJacobs
    Not sure if this counts, because there's a few very good reasons beyond just this trope, but...

    Anime And Manga
    • Black Lagoon: Hansel and Gretel are a pair of twelve year old Creepy Twins who were forced to participate in snuff films and child porn until their minds snapped and they started tearing through Roanapur on a killing spree. When Rock saves Gretel's life, she tries to thank him the only way she knows how to. Rock is quite rightly squicked out by this and bolts.
  • June 20, 2014
    captainpat
    Please rewrite the description without the Alice And Bob scenario. That's an Example As A Thesis. You don't need an example in your trope description when you have an example section right below it.

  • June 20, 2014
    Hero_Gal_2347
    Technically, this could be expanded into any situation where a potential romancer thinks the person is emotionally compromised and wants to wait until he can be sure that she is competent to make the decision.
  • June 20, 2014
    KyleJacobs
    ^That's Above The Influence. This would be a subtrope.
  • June 20, 2014
    KyleJacobs
  • December 7, 2014
    KyleJacobs
    Bumping this.
  • December 7, 2014
    Koveras
    ^ You can take it over from me, if you want... I seem to have forgotten about it.
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