Created By: MegaJ on September 27, 2017 Last Edited By: WolfMattGrey on September 30, 2017
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Trans Tribulations

Angst related to gender identity

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This came about because there's a few examples in the Gayngst article for trans/non-binary, I felt that we needed a separate trope due to those feelings being related to sexual/romantic desire. Trans/non-binary tropes, please help out, due to me not being trans/non-binary and I may screw some things up!

"I feel...in-between. I don't feel like a girl or what everyone thinks is a girl, I don't like make-up and stuff like you do, I really, really hate my boobs...but I don't feel like a boy either."
Yael Baron, genderqueer character, Degrassi: Next Class.

Trans (or transgender) folk face a lot of challenges in life. While most of the world is starting to understand and tolerate people with sexual/romantic leanings towards people of their own gender, many still scratch their heads at someone who doesn't identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. As a result, trans/non-binary characters in fiction tend to be miserable due to dealing with their own gender dysphoria and/or other people's misconceptions.

Common themes included being forcibly outed, to disastrous consequences, to being referred to as the wrong pronoun (sometimes deliberately), being Mistaken for Gay (though some trans individuals certainly are gay, most people tend to think all trans individuals are confused gays and lesbians) and more often than not, leads to Self-Harm, committing suicide or being murdered due to being trans. And on the opposite side of the spectrum, there's people who really like trans women, but sexualize them to the point of dehumanization.

Unfortunately, this is Truth In Television; however starting from the end of the Turn of the Millennium to the The New Tens, there have been slightly better attempts to deliver more uplifting narratives and more fully actualized characters.

See Gayngst for the this trope as applied to sexuality.


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     Anime & Manga 
  • Sara from Ai no Shintairiku is a high schooler who gets outed on her first day at her new school. While generally light-hearted, the manga deals with her in-denial mother, Sara being bullied by girls for being trans, and her crush's confusion over his sexuality.
  • Marika from Bokura no Hentai shows deep displeasure wearing the male school uniform - saying it feels like she's going to a funeral - and stays home in bed crying when her voice begins to break. Luckily she comes out to her mom soon afterwards and begins living full-time as a girl. However, even then she feels dysphoria and worries about her womanhood.
  • Claudine is about a trans man living in early 20th century France. He faces many trials trying to be seen as male in his society. He is Driven to Suicide when his lover becomes engaged to his brother.
  • The one-shot Cotton Candy Love is about a woman who bonds with an elementary aged trans girl who recently came out and is bullied at school.
  • The main cast of Family Complex consists of a cis man, his trans woman aunt, his trans man uncle, and his (most-likely) genderfluid cousin. As a teenager, Sora faced a lot of trouble with his father because he refused to wear the girl's uniform.
  • Hishida from Genkaku Picasso is a almost Driven to Suicide after being caught in the girl's bathroom. The protagonist helps her and afterwards she begins going to school as a girl.
  • Akari from How I Became a Pokémon Card has always told people that he's male. Not even his Childhood Friend knew he wasn't cis until he began middle school and was forced into wearing skirts. Akari is given a Pikachu for his thirteenth birthday and is angry that he received a "cute" Pokemon instead of a "cool" one. After seeing his Pikachu fight, he learns that the two aren't exclusive.
  • Played with in Hunter × Hunter. Alluka is heavily implied to be a transgender girl. The only member of her family that refers to her as a girl is Killua. The rest of the family ignore her and call her "it". However, this isn't due to her gender. It's due to her Split Personality.
  • Celebrity stylist Nao from Ice Revolution is already transitioned but it's mentioned that, as a teenager, she was a violent Japanese Delinquent as a way of dealing with her frustration over her sex.
  • Kyou Kara Yonshimai is about a trans woman who returns from college partway through her transition. She has to deal with her sister's discomfort over the transition and her own gender dysphoria.
  • Seiko from Lovely Complex is usually a light-hearted character however in one manga chapter her voice broke. She was so distraught over her low, manly voice that she ended up outright detransitioning. She's eventually able to get her old voice back after getting a needle for a cold.
  • Minor character Alice from Maria-sama ga Miteru is a trans girl who goes to an all-boys school. She wishes she could have gone to the local all-girls school instead.
  • The third story in the anthology manga Mascara Blues is about a trans girl who wants to come out to crush. She's worried he'll freak out when he tells her.
  • Wandering Son:
    • Nitori is a trans girl. She's always been feminine and could pass as a short-haired girl sometimes, however she didn't really start experimenting with her gender until she met Takatsuki in fifth grade. Early on, Nitori's family found it amusing when she dressed as a girl but eventually they noticed it wasn't a phase. Her sister Maho especially turned into a Big Sister Bully while her mother is confused and in denial. Nitori has to deal with the on-set of puberty, puberty itself, and her want to be seen as a girl. At one point in middle school she went to school in a Sailor Fuku and was promptly sent back home. She ended up bullied the rest of her time at the school. Her girlfriend Anna broke up with her due to the incident, but eventually they got back together and by the end of high school Anna mentions she's fine with being seen as a lesbian.
    • Takatsuki is introduced as a trans boy. They have to to deal with everyone wanting them to be more feminine, their own confusion over their gender, and the on-set of puberty. By high school, Takatsuki's confusion hits its peak. They ultimately decide to live as female however Word of God is that they can be viewed as either cis or trans.
    • Cool Big Sis Yuki is a trans woman. In middle school, bullies forced her to wear the female uniform at school. This incident caused her to quit going to school and become a hikikomori. As a kid, her mother knew she had an interest in women's clothing however she refused to talk about it. Once Yuki came out as an adult, both of her parents became cold towards her.
    • Mako is a trans girl who always felt inadequate compared to Nitori. She considers herself a bland, freckle-faced dork with Nerd Glasses. Mako suffers from less physical dysphoria than Nitori, however unlike Nitori she is attracted to men. Unluckily, every crush is straight and doesn't see her as a girl In high school Mako almost drops out when her crush Oka sees her in girl mode. He didn't even know it was her, however. Mako later comes out to her mother, who is supportive.
  • Aoi from You're Under Arrest! has one episode where she falls for a man however doesn't know how to tell him that she's a trans woman. It ultimately doesn't work out between them. In another episode, her former boss tries to coax her to act manly, however it bombs in his face as every attempt such accentuates how feminine she is.
  • Tetsuo from Yuureitou is a trans man living in 1950s Japan. Growing up, he felt ostrasized from others due to not being like the girls at his orphanage. Once he was adopted, his mother would always get into fights over him about his boyish behavior and explicit desire to be a man. It got to the point where she arranged a marriage for him, despite him not liking boys at the time. Tetsuo ended up killing his mom, faking his suicide, and running off as a man. Tetsuo notes that he can't get a girlfriend because they all get upset when he comes out to them. He eventually ends up the Official Couple with Taichi, who sees him as a man.

     Comic Books 
  • Subverted with Clash from Jem and the Holograms. She feels the need to come out as trans to her new all-girls band. No one has any issue with her being transgender.

     Literature 
  • The children's picture book 1000 Dresses is about a young trans girl obsessed with dresses. Her parents don't support this but she meets a neighbor who makes her dresses.
  • 'I Am J is about a teenage trans boy named "J" trying to transition in an unsupportive environment.
  • Luna is told from the POV of a teenage trans girl's brother. He is Luna's Secret Keeper. Luna has an ultra-macho father who expects his sons to be masculine.
  • Parrotfish is about a trans boy who decides to come out at his high school. He faces disapproval from his peers and family and his best friend since toddlerhood starts drifting away after he comes out.

     Film — Live Action 
  • In Ma Vie En Rose, a 7-year-old trans girl with a crush on a boy is misunderstood at every turn, tries to butch it up, fails, feels miserable, and attempts suicide. She gets better though.

     Live-Action Television 
  • Season 6 of 3-Nen B-Gumi Kinpachi-sensei had a New Transfer Student named Nao who was a closeted trans boy. He was an aloof, distant boy who wore a longer skirt than needed because he could handle them better than short skirts. His parents have mixed views on him being trans. Nao eventually sees a therapist however is disappointed that he can't begin hormones for several more years.
  • Degrassi
    • Adam is introduced in season 10 as a trans boy. During his first season, he gets mis-gendered several times, assaulted, and briefly returned back his assigned gender and burns himself in order to keep the pain inside. He gets much better but then in his final season, he's killed while texting and driving.
    • Yael is introduced in Degrassi: Next Class, as a nerdy Go-Getter Girl whose Berserk Button was being dismissed due to their perceived gender. During season 4, they start to dress differently and lamenting about their body which confused them as they were attracted to their cis-gender male boyfriend which led to people thinking they were gay. Eventually, with a friend's help, they realized they were genderqueer and while they embraced their new identity, it lead to a break-up with Hunter.
  • Nomi, the lesbian trans woman from Sense8, is in a very happy relationship and surrounds herself with the accepting San Francisco LGBT community, and she doesn't have any internalized trans- or homophobia. (Anymore - she explains to Lito that she did try very hard to be "normal" as a child / young teenager, until an incident of brutally violent bullying from the boys at her swim club made her give up trying to be like them.) But her estranged mother completely refuses to accept her as a woman, she has a very scary run-in with the medical establishment not treating her like a sane adult able to make her own decisions, and the trans-excluding radical feminist 'friends' of her girlfriend got pretty nasty towards her during a flashback scene.
  • Transparent has the main character Maura, as well as a few other trans characters that have dealt with this trope, particularly Maura who doesn't come out well into her 60s.

     Webcomics 
  • Khaos Komix:
    • Tom is a trans man who afraid of letting Murfs know, much less sleeping with him, for fear of being seen as a woman.
    • Charlie is a trans woman. She and Tom met as high schoolers. They ended up moving away after being beaten up by bullies. Charlie is afraid to tell her boyfriend that she's trans because he's homophobic.
  • Rain is a Slice of Life dramedy all about the eponymous protagonist's transition from male to female. Rain is a very neurotic trans girl, always afraid someone will discover her secret or that she'll accidentally out herself. As the story progresses she gets a circle of Secret Keeper friends and she becomes more confident, but there still are difficulties. Her older brother Aiken was a huge dick when she came out to him, but he quickly made up for it by researching the subject, realizing she was happy that way and apologizing. A much nastier event was Rain's older sister being even more transphobic than Aiken ever was when confronted with the news, and cutting Rain's hair in her sleep when she spent a weekend at her place, in an attempt to "fix" her. Rain didn't take it kindly and disowned her.
Community Feedback Replies: 6
  • September 28, 2017
    Arivne
    • Corrected spelling (slighty, who's -> whose, dress different -> dress differently, particulary).
    • Examples section
      • Added a line separating the Description and Examples section.
      • Changed media section titles to All Caps.
      • Namespaced work names.
      • Italicized work names as per How To Write An Example - Emphasis For Work Names.
  • September 28, 2017
    Badger96
    Edited a couple of redundancies (the two eithers) and fixed some punctuation.

    This does need its own trope, I think, since it is both Truth In Television (unfortunately) and Trans Is Not Gay (although some of us are, it's still not the same thing).

    Cribbing examples from the Gayngst page (let us hope I do not explode the markup):

    • Marika from Bokura No Hentai shows deep displeasure wearing the male school uniform - saying it feels like she's going to a funeral - and stays home in bed crying when her voice begins to break. Luckily she comes out to her mom soon afterwards and begins living full-time as a girl.

    • In Ma Vie En Rose, a 7-year-old trans girl with a crush on a boy is misunderstood at every turn, tries to butch it up, fails, feels miserable, and attempts suicide.

    • Nomi, the lesbian trans woman from Sense8, is in a very happy relationship and surrounds herself with the accepting San Francisco LGBT community, and she doesn't have any internalized trans- or homophobia. (Anymore - she explains to Lito that she did try very hard to be "normal" as a child / young teenager, until an incident of brutally violent bullying from the boys at her swim club made her give up trying to be like them.) But her estranged mother completely refuses to accept her as a woman, she has a very scary run-in with the medical establishment not treating her like a sane adult able to make her own decisions, and the trans-excluding radical feminist 'friends' of her girlfriend got pretty nasty towards her during a flashback scene.

    • Khaos Komix has Tom, a trans man is afraid of letting Murfs know, much less sleeping with him, for fear of being seen as a woman
  • September 28, 2017
    WolfMattGrey
    That reminds me there doesn't seem to be many trans tropes compared to gay tropes, and many gay tropes have trans examples. Probably because of the whole "trans = gay" confusion, and less exposure of trans people in media compared to homosexuals. So this is a helpful trope to have.

    • Rain is a Slice Of Life dramedy all about the eponymous protagonist's transition from male to female. Rain is a very neurotic trans girl, always afraid someone will discover her secret or that she'll accidentally out herself. As the story progresses she gets a circle of Secret Keeper friends and she becomes more confident, but there still are difficulties. Her older brother Aiken was a huge dick when she came out to him, but he quickly made up for it by researching the subject, realizing she was happy that way and apologizing. A much nastier event was Rain's older sister being even more transphobic than Aiken ever was when confronted with the news, and cutting Rain's hair in her sleep when she spent a weekend at her place, in an attempt to "fix" her. Rain didn't take it kindly and disowned her.

  • September 28, 2017
    WolfMattGrey
    accidental double posting
  • September 29, 2017
    Pichu-kun
    • Wandering Son:
      • Nitori is a trans girl. She's always been feminine and could pass as a short-haired girl sometimes, however she didn't really start experimenting with her gender until she met Takatsuki in fifth grade. Early on, Nitori's family found it amusing when she dressed as a girl but eventually they noticed it wasn't a phase. Her sister Maho especially turned into a Big Sister Bully while her mother is confused and in denial. Nitori has to deal with the on-set of puberty, puberty itself, and her want to be seen as a girl. At one point in middle school she went to school in a Sailor Fuku and was promptly sent back home. She ended up bullied the rest of her time at the school. Her girlfriend Anna broke up with her due to the incident, but eventually they got back together and by the end of high school Anna mentions she's fine with being seen as a lesbian.
      • Takatsuki is introduced as a trans boy. They have to to deal with everyone wanting them to be more feminine, their own confusion over their gender, and the on-set of puberty. By high school, Takatsuki's confusion hits its peak. They ultimately decide to live as female however Word Of God is that they can be viewed as either cis or trans.
      • Cool Big Sis Yuki is a trans woman. In middle school, bullies forced her to wear the female uniform at school. This incident caused her to quit going to school and become a hikikimori. As a kid, her mother knew she had an interest in women's clothing however she refused to talk about it. Once Yuki came out as an adult, both of her parents became cold towards her.
      • Mako is a trans girl who always felt inadequate compared to Nitori. She considers herself a bland, freckle-faced dork with Nerd Glasses. Mako suffers from less physical dysphoria than Nitori, however unlike Nitori she is attracted to men. Unluckily, every crush is straight and doesn't see her as a girl In high school Mako almost drops out when her crush Oka sees her in girl mode. He didn't even know it was her, however. Mako later comes out to her mother, who is supportive.
    • The main cast of Family Complex consists of a cis man, his trans woman aunt, his trans man uncle, and his (most-likely) genderfluid cousin. As a teenager, Sora faced a lot of trouble with his father because he refused to wear the girl's uniform.
    • Seiko from Lovely Complex is usually a light-hearted character however in one manga chapter her voice broke. She was so distraught over her low, manly voice that she ended up outright detransitioning. She's eventually able to get her old voice back after getting a needle for a cold.
    • Claudine is about a trans man living in early 20th century France. He faces many trials trying to be seen as male in his society. He is Driven To Suicide when his lover becomes engaged to his brother.
    • Aoi from Youre Under Arrest has one episode where she falls for a man however doesn't know how to tell him that she's a trans woman. It ultimately doesn't work out between them. In another episode, her former boss tries to coax her to act manly, however it bombs in his face as every attempt such accentuates how feminine she is.
    • Sara from Ai No Shintariku is a high schooler who gets outed on her first day at her new school. While generally light-hearted, the manga deals with her in-denial mother, Sara being bullied by girls for being trans, and her crush's confusion over his sexuality.
    • Minor character Alice from Maria Sama Ga Miteru is a trans girl who goes to an all-boys school. She wishes she could have gone to the local all-girls school instead.
    • Celebrity stylist Nao from Ice Revolution is already transitioned but it's mentioned that, as a teenager, she was a violent Japanese Delinquent as a way of dealing with her frustration over her sex.
    • Akari from How I Became A Pokemon Card has always told people that he's male. Not even his Childhood Friend knew he wasn't cis until he began middle school and was forced into wearing skirts. Akari is given a Pikachu for his thirteenth birthday and is angry that he received a "cute" Pokemon instead of a "cool" one. After seeing his Pikachu fight, he learns that the two aren't exclusive.
    • Hishida from Genkaku Picasso is a almost Driven To Suicide after being caught in the girl's bathroom. The protagonist helps her and afterwards she begins going to school as a girl.
    • The third story in the anthology manga Mascara Blues is about a trans girl who wants to come out to crush. She's worried he'll freak out when he tells her.
    • Played with in Hunter X Hunter. Alluka is heavily implied to be a transgender girl. The only member of her family that refers to her as a girl is Killua. The rest of the family ignore her and call her "it". However, this isn't due to her gender. It's due to her Split Personality.
    • Kyou Kara Yonshimai is about a trans woman who returns from college partway through her transition. She has to deal with her sister's discomfort over the transition and her own gender dysphoria.
    • Tetsuo from Yuureitou is a trans man living in 1950s Japan. Growing up, he felt ostrasized from others due to not being like the girls at his orphanage. Once he was adopted, his mother would always get into fights over him about his boyish behavior and explicit desire to be a man. It got to the point where she arranged a marriage for him, despite him not liking boys at the time. Tetsuo ended up killing his mom, faking his suicide, and running off as a man. Tetsuo notes that he can't get a girlfriend because they all get upset when he comes out to them. He eventually ends up the Official Couple with , who sees him as a man.
    • The one-shot Cotton Candy Love is about a woman who bonds with an elementary aged trans girl who recently came out and is bullied at school.

    • Subverted with Clash from Jem And The Holograms. She feels the need to come out as trans to her new all-girls band. No one has any issue with her being transgender.

    • Luna is told from the POV of a teenage trans girl's brother. He is Luna's Secret Keeper. Luna has an ultra-macho father who expects his sons to be masculine.
    • Parrotfish is about a trans boy who decides to come out at his high school. He faces disapproval from his peers and family and his best friend since toddlerhood starts drifting away after he comes out.
    • 'I Am J is about a teenage trans boy named "J" trying to transition in an unsupportive environment.
    • The children's picture book 1000 Dresses is about a young trans girl obsessed with dresses. Her parents don't support this but she meets a neighbor who makes her dresses.

    • Season 6 of 3-Nen B-Gumi Kinpachi-sensei had a New Transfer Student named Nao who was a closeted trans boy. He was an aloof, distant boy who wore a longer skirt than needed because he could handle them better than short skirts. His parents have mixed views on him being trans. Nao eventually sees a therapist however is disappointed that he can't begin hormones for several more years.
  • September 30, 2017
    Synchronicity
    Have a hat. I suggest folderizing examples before launch, this might get a lot more examples.
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