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7	A StockPhrase used to compare the difference between the way the speaker and a third character are treated. This is often used to imply that the speaker is not valued as much by the subject in question and can become a source of {{angst}} in the relationship.
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9	This can be shown in a number of different situations, including:
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11	* Someone complaining their (ex) significant other is willing to go farther for a current or former lover than they would for the speaker.
12	* A child lamenting that their parent treats a sibling more favorably.
13	* A friend feels that they are the odd-man-out amongst their group.
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15	When this phrase is used in the context of an ongoing romantic relationship, this could indicate the moment in which the speaker realizes that their feelings are not fully reciprocated, and lead to a MakeUpOrBreakUp dilemma. If it is instead used by an ex-lover, it can serve to show the audience that the current pairing is [[OneTruePairing True Love]] after all.
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17	This is very common in {{Cuckold}} (or {{Netorare}}) stories, where it is used to further the humiliation of the cuckolded party by showing how much dominant the lover is.
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19	Note that while this is often shown in a dramatic sense, it's also commonly PlayedForLaughs as one friend uses this phrase on another in a joking way (usually with an "I'm joking" added in).
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21	This StockPhrase commonly leads to the stock response "[[YouDidntAsk You never asked]]."
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23	Compare WhatsHeGotThatIAintGot
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30	[[folder:Advertising]]
31	* In a Yuban Coffee commercial from the late 1970s, a man and wife are at a party. The man asks for a second cup of coffee while the wife laments that he never asks for a second cup of ''her'' coffee. (It's also implied that he may be thinking of dumping her for the hot blond party-thrower with the superior coffee-making skills -- she'd better go buy some Yuban ''now'' for the sake of her marriage!).
32	** Parodied in the movie ''Airplane!'' (see below).
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35	[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
36	* ''Manga/MissKobayashisDragonMaid'': Tohru gets annoyed when Kobayashi offers to let Kanna stay with them since she had initially been turned away when she showed up. Kobayashi's response is "Once you have one, two's nothing."
37	* One story of the gag manga ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion Comic Party'' involves Misato and Ritsuko trying to see who's sexier by trying to attract Shinji. When the two try wearing sexy outfits, Kaji and Maya run into them in the process. Kaji notes that Misato never wore an outfit like that for him. Maya then gets upset that Ritsuko never wore an outfit like that for her.
38	* ''Manga/{{Parasyte}}'': Kana [[FalseSoulmate believes she's Shinichi's soulmate]], due to having a psychic connection to people like him, and her being the first/only person he opened up about TheMasquerade to. But she also sees him grow affectionate to his actual girlfriend in a way he never did to her and internally pleads for him to notice her romantically.
39	* ''Manga/RanmaOneHalf'': When Ranma offers to give [[UnluckyChildhoodFriend Ukyo]] a piggyback ride, [[LoveInterest Akane]] becomes jealous and irritable.
40	--> '''Akane:''' He never does anything that nice for me!
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43	[[folder:Comic Books]]
44	* ''ComicBook/LokiAgentOfAsgard'': Odin's quiet admission that, yes, he does actually love Thor and Loki, gets [[spoiler:Old!Loki screaming as they watch since apparently Odin never said that to them.]]
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47	[[folder:Comic Strips]]
48	* [[https://dilbert.com/strip/1992-04-13 This]] ''ComicStrip/{{Dilbert}}'' strip. Doubles as a RhetoricalQuestionBlunder.
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51	[[folder:Fan Works]]
52	* ''Blog/BetterBonesAU'': When Tigerstar intervenes to spare Flametail, his grandson through Tawnypelt, from being [[DeaderThanDead killed for a second time]], Hawkfrost realizes that Tigerstar would have never done this for Mothwing (Hawkfrost's sister and Tigerstar's child by Sasha), helping contribute to his HeelFaceTurn.
53	* In the ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' fan comic ''Webcomic/HowIBecameYours'', Mai makes a remark like this while intruding in Katara's room after Zuko leaves to meet with the Fire Nation Senate.
54	-->'''Mai''': Even when I was married to (Zuko) he never got me flowers.
55	* ''Webcomic/ScarletLady'': Chloé is ''furious'' when her mother offers to take Marinette to New York, protesting that she'd never taken '''her''' there. Audrey retorts that her daughter's never done anything to prove she's "exceptional" enough to be worth the effort.
56	* ''Fanfic/ShardsOfAMemory'': Karai, after [[IHaveYourWife kidnapping April to lure in Shard]], accuses Shard of [[ReplacementGoldfish replacing her with April]]. At one point, she points out that Shard gave April the heirloom tessen that, had circumstances been different, gone to Karai.
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59	[[folder:Film - Live-Action]]
60	* PlayedForLaughs in ''Film/{{Airplane}}'': When her husband has a second cup of coffee, the wife (listed in the credits as "Mrs. Hammen") says, "That's funny, Jim never has a second cup of coffee at home." (Later, when he's sick and hurling into the barf bag, she says, "Jim never vomits at home...")
61	** This was a parody of a Yuban Coffee commercial from the late 1970s that played this trope straight (see "Advertising", above).
62	* ''Film/DeadAir2009'': Used by Lucy when she overhears her ex, Logan, promise to pick up his current wife's brother from the airport.
63	-->'''Lucy''': You never picked up ''my'' brother from the airport!\
64	'''Logan''': But, you never asked me to!\
65	'''Lucy''': ... that's because I knew you'd say '''no'''.
66	* ''Film/MadeaGoesToJail'': This feeling between a couple drives the primary (or secondary, [[JustHereForGodzilla depending on how you view it]]) plot.
67	* ''Film/TheMatrix'': Trinity has just brought Neo his dinner and Cypher decides to tease her about her obvious attraction to him.
68	-->'''Cypher''': I don't remember you ever bringing me dinner.
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71	[[folder:Literature]]
72	* PlayedWith early in ''Literature/TheBelgariad'', before Garion gets his big reveal. Garion and Ce'Nedra are talking about the girl Garion probably would have married had things gone another way, and Garion says it's for the best because she's not someone you can ask to sleep on the ground. Ce'Nedra points out that the group never hesitated to ask ''her'' to sleep on the ground, to which he replies, "I guess you're stronger."
73	* ''Literature/ImperialRadch'': Radchaai spaceship {{Artificial Intelligence}}s aren't considered "people" and are under built-in {{Restraining Bolt}}s, but have a thousand small ways to make life more or less pleasant for captains they like or dislike. When Breq, the last surviving WetwareBody of one such AI, is reminiscing with her old captain Seivarden about the little favours she'd do for her favourite Lieutenant Awn, Seivarden struggles with the growing realization that Breq didn't like her at ''all''.
74	* In ''Literature/TheLordOfTheRings'', Legolas recounts how the forest elves tried to rehabilitate Gollum, allowing him fresh air and exercise. Glóin comments "You were less tender to me" -- he'd been imprisoned by the same elves in ''Literature/TheHobbit'', and confined to a dungeon.
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77	[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
78	* ''Series/{{Angel}}'': Played for laughs in the Season 5 episode [[Recap/AngelS05E20TheGirlInQuestion "The Girl in Question"]] in a flashback to when vampires Angel and Spike were both evil and scouring Europe with their vampiric paramours Darla and Drusilla. After freeing themselves from captivity by the mysterious Immortal (who is great at everything and basically exists to make Angel and Spike feel inadequate), they find that the girls had a threesome with him - which the boys had never been able to get them to agree to.
79	* The first season of ''Series/BoardwalkEmpire'' has an example. Jimmy is [[LikeASonToMe like a son]] to VillainProtagonist and CorruptPolitician Nucky Thompson. When Jimmy gets in trouble with the law in a way that could potentially blow [[TheRoaringTwenties Nucky's interest in the illegal alcohol trade]], Nucky doesn't directly help Jimmy but he doesn't cut him loose either, instead offering Jimmy a little cash and a chance to jump town. After Jimmy leaves, Nucky's brother/[[TheDragon Dragon]] Eli rhetorically wonders if he would get the same slack. [[spoiler:Later in the season Eli is seriously wounded and publicly exposed as a DirtyCop. Nucky fires Eli from his position as Sheriff... at least until after the election is over when he immediately hires Eli back. Too bad Eli has already become TheStarscream and joined a conspiracy against Nucky by then.]]
80	* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'': While Xander and Cordelia's relationship was still a secret to the rest of the Scoobies, Cordelia protested as Xander declared that he was off to help Buffy out of yet another sticky situation.
81	-->'''Cordelia''': You were too busy rushing off to die for your beloved Buffy. You'd never die for me.
82	-->'''Xander''': I might die ''from'' you, does that count?
83	** They run into this issue a lot in their relationship, with Cordelia complaining about how much Xander would do for both Buffy and [[ChildhoodFriends Willow.]]
84	* Though the exact stock phrase isn't used, the concept appears several times in ''Series/{{Coupling}}''. Jane's reaction to this trope feeds her story arc in the "Inferno" episode.
85	** Subverted in the episode "The Cupboard of Patrick's Love" when Steve is watching what he believes to be Patrick's sex tape with Susan, and loudly exclaims "She's never done that with me!" to Patrick, before realising that Susan is in the room. [[HilarityEnsues It turns out to not be her.]]
86	-->'''Susan''': Who's never done what with you, darling?\
87	'''Steve''': ...Creator/JennyAgutter.\
88	'''Patrick''': ''Film/{{Walkabout}}''! We're watching ''Walkabout''.\
89	'''Susan''': Oh, you're upset that Jenny Agutter's never gone on an Aboriginal walkabout with you?\
90	'''Steve''': ...I admit I was surprised at the strength of my response.
91	* ''Series/ADifferentWorld'': As the campus prepares for a big football game, RichBitch Whitley is seen buying lunches for herself and her date, revealing that she's going to attend. Ex-fiance Dwayne is shocked at this:
92	-->'''Dwayne''': You never wanted to go to a game with ''me''.\
93	'''Whitley''': ''He'' takes the time to explain the game to me. He takes his time in other ways too.
94	* ''Series/DowntonAbbey'': Thomas notices [[RenownedSelectiveMentor Carson]] helping new footman Alfred in learning the ropes of serving at Downton. Thomas confronts the boss:
95	-->'''Thomas''': You're taking a lot of trouble with Alfred. I feel quite jealous.\
96	'''Carson''': I don't know why. He asked for help. ''[[YouDidntAsk You]]'' [[YouDidntAsk never did]].
97	* {{Inverted\|Trope}} in ''Series/{{Frasier}}''; Daphne becomes worried about her impending marriage after her parents break up. Her father points out that Niles flew to England and dragged him all the way to Seattle just to comfort her, and admits "I never did anything like that for your mother."
98	* In ''Series/GetSmart'', 99 tells a man her name, inciting her ignorant partner Max's jealousy. She matter-of-factly replies, [[YouDidntAsk "You never asked me."]] [[spoiler:It's actually a CodeName. Viewers never learn her real name, and we doubt Max did either.]]
99	* Parodied in ''Series/GoodLuckCharlie'', Teddy goes to Ivy's house to study for a really important test and Ivy's mother offers to give her a relaxing spot and a cup of tea. Ivy asks why she never does that for her. Her mom counters that she would if she studied. Ivy decides it's still not worth it.
100	* In ''Series/TheGoodPlace'', Eleanor discovers that the unreliable con artist mother she thought was dead is actually alive and now has a new family and a stepdaughter. Though she's there to help make sure her mother is reformed and wants to be happy that she is so much kinder than Eleanor remembered, she can't help but feel resentful that her mother never treated her the way she treats her new child.
101	* In ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'', in the episode where Barney puts together the super-date in order to bang J-Lo, Robin laments that he never went to similar lengths for her, even though they had been in a relationship together.
102	** When Barney meets his [[spoiler: DisappearedDad, and sees that he has another son for whom he acts as a typical boring, suburban dad, Barney [[TearJerker is extremely hurt]] because, if he was just going to be normal and regular, why couldn't he have been normal ''with Barney?'']]
103	--->'''Barney:''' If you were going to be some [[spoiler: lame suburban dad]], ''why couldn't you have been that for me?!''
104	** HIMYM likes this one. This is played for drama with Ted and Stella, where she refused to even consider moving into NYC with Ted, but did so almost immediately with her ex after [[RunawayBride leaving Ted at the altar]]. It's what prompts his attempt at an angry confrontation with her.
105	* ''Series/MarriedWithChildren'': Bud and Kelly resent Seven because Peggy did good things for him that she never did for them.
106	* One episode of ''Series/ModernFamily'' opens with the aftermath of a massive fight Claire and Phil had. Phil spends some time with Gloria going over the previous day to figure out what he did to upset Claire (Gloria pins it on everything he did, forgetting to give her a message, getting broccoli instead of cauliflower, etc.), while Claire tells her dad it's this trope. It's not even in the form of a potential lover or one specific person, but whenever she gives him a suggestion -- in this case, trying wedge salad- he ignores her or blows it off, but whenever someone ''else'' gives that same suggestion, he thinks it's the greatest idea in the world. Since he still doesn't know what he did wrong, he winds up suggesting she try a wedge salad, courtesy of his genius friend, which of course sets her off all over again.
107	* In the episode of ''Series/{{Monk}}'' where Sharona and Natalie meet, Sharona finds out that Monk pays Natalie a lot more than he paid her. Thus she complains that Monk never paid her that much.
108	* ''Series/MrAndMrsSmith2024'': One of the reasons Jane gets angry at John and suspects he's having an emotional affair with his target Bev is that he didn't stop wearing the cologne she asked him to until Bev herself ''also'' asks.
109	* On ''Series/TheMuppetShow'', when Kermit informed Miss Piggy that Christopher Reeve was the guest star for the week, she exclaimed "Christopher 'Perfect Body' Reeve?!", and immediately ran off to freshen up. Then, a surprisingly jealous Kermit laments, "She never called ''me'' 'Perfect body'."
110	** In the special ''The Muppets Go to the Movies'', Kermit figures that the best way to stay Piggy's jealousy is to ask Lily Tomlin to introduce the {{horror}} segment. He figures wrong: "Well! You never asked ''me'' to introduce the horror movie."
111	* ''Series/{{Neighbours}}'': Soon after Paige and Mark get back together, she finds out that he chose to put his job as a police officer at risk by covering up evidence that Sonya was involved in a hit-and-run (at the time he believed she was innocent, but Sonya remembered it soon afterward and turned herself in), she gets furious that he'd do that for a platonic friend, yet a year earlier he had arrested her after she was framed for receiving stolen goods, on their wedding day.
112	* ''Series/ParksAndRecreation'': Over the course of Season 2, as Andy and April's [[ShipTease romantic relationship starts to develop]], Andy's ex-girlfriend Ann becomes jealous of April, not because she still harbors romantic feelings for him but because he's already gone farther for the latter (who he isn't even dating) than he ever did for Ann herself throughout their three-years-long relationship. The biggest stand-out example is in the episode "Park Safety" when Ann wonders if Andy suffered a major head injury when seeing him buy and give April a pastry from the cafe. It may be a small gesture, but it's a major example of OOCIsSeriousBusiness to Ann.
113	* PlayedWith on ''Series/{{Roseanne}}:'' Jackie divorces Fred for never wanting to try new things or do anything exciting, and afterward he starts taking up hobbies like skydiving. There's no other woman involved, but it still irks her.
114	* In ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'' this is the reason why Danni breaks up with JD, realizing he still has feelings for Elliot. He goes out of his way to make Elliot feel better when she's having a crappy day after he [[IsThisThingStillOn (thinks he)]] has just hung on Dani, saying he was too busy with work to speak to her.
115	* In ''Series/{{Smallville}}'', Jimmy has this attitude towards Chloe, who has done more for Clark than he would ever know.
116	* PlayedForLaughs in an episode of ''Series/StarTrekVoyager'' where Janeway, upon learning that her best friend Tuvok used to make tea for [[Film/StarTrekVITheUndiscoveredCountry then-Captain Sulu]], jokingly complains that he never made ''her'' any tea.
117	-->'''Janeway''': ''(mock indignant)'' You never brought ME tea!
118	** One of Janeway's defining traits is that she a big coffee-drinker, and in the episode's novelization, Tuvok points out that she prefers coffee, and that Vulcan coffee, unlike Vulcan tea, isn't fit for human consumption.
119	* Done for comical effect when Q's surprise at Sisko's behavior, in comparison to Captain Picard's, gets PlayedForLaughs in an episode of ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'':
120	-->'''Q''': You hit me! ''[[Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration Picard]]'' never hit me!
121	** Which leads to Sisko's blunt, but awesome rebuttal. "I'm '''not''' Picard." Though Q laughs it off and is amused by how much easier to provoke Sisko is compared to the more stoic Picard.
122	* In ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'', Sam and Dean's reaction when they meet their [[LongLostRelative half-brother Adam]] who recalls going to baseball games with their father. This is the same father who would leave Sam and Dean holed up in sleazy roadside motels for weeks while he was off hunting monsters, with limited food and money and no adult supervision or outside contact, giving ten-year-old Dean a shotgun to defend six-year-old Sam with if necessary. But [[spoiler:it turns out the story was fake. While Adam '''is''' their brother, he'd already been killed and a ghoul had assumed his form. The ghoul, who wanted revenge on their deceased father, John, instead took it out on the brothers, using what he'd learned about their lonely childhood to psychologically torture them. When they finally [[ItsALongStory meet the real Adam later in the season]], they find out he had even less quality time with John than they did]].
123	* In an episode of ''Series/TwoAndAHalfMen'', Charlie spends most of the episode teaching Jake how to behave at his first "boy-girl party". Eventually, Alan complains about how Charlie never taught him anything, and basically left him on his own, and suffered socially for it. Charlie does seem remorseful for this but mentions how he was just a stupid teenager at the time and didn't want to hang out with his little brother.
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126	[[folder:Music]]
127	* Music/TracyLawrence: "I See It Now":
128	-->Oh, I never saw that look in your eyes\
129	And I never had you hold me that tight\
130	And I never saw you dance with your feet off the ground\
131	Oh, but I see it now
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134	[[folder:Mythology & Religion]]
135	* ''Literature/TheBible'': At the end of the parable of the Prodigal Son, the loyal son who ''didn't'' leave home and waste all his money asks why his irresponsible brother is welcomed back into the family with a huge feast when their father never did the same for him. The father reassures him that he's still going to inherit everything but of course they should celebrate since his brother coming back to their family is as wonderful as if he'd died and come back to life.
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139	* In ''Theatre/CriticsChoice'', after Parker gives a speech begging Angela to stay with him that moves her to tears, Ivy asks him why he didn't give her that kind of a speech four years ago when he divorced her. "Because you would have stayed, that's why," Charlotte (Angela's mother) answers.
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143	* In an episode of ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' called ''Bitter Work'', Aang calls Toph "Sifu Toph"...which leads Katara to say that he never called HER his Sifu (which is another word for mentor). Later on, though, he does call her Sifu Katara...which solves this little argument.
144	* ''WesternAnimation/BoJackHorseman'': In "Stupid Piece of Shit", [=BoJack=] is outraged he sees his abusive mother Beatrice, who is now senile, is caring for a baby doll she thinks is real and treats it better than she ever treated him.
145	-->'''Beatrice:''' Please stop fighting. All this shouting is bad for the baby.\
146	'''[=BoJack=]:''' Where was that keen parenting insight ''50 years ago?!''
147	* In ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'''s "Jurassic Bark," Bender's jealousy of Fry's dog Seymour humorously extends to things like Fry's purchase of a dog collar and a rubber newspaper.
148	-->'''Bender:''' No one ever asks if ''[[ThirdPersonPerson Bender]]'' would like to live in a tiny little house! Not that I ''would!'' ...''(sad)'' A tiny little house that says "Bender" on it!
149	* Like so many things involving Mr. Garrison in ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'', this was played in the most twisted way possible, when it was revealed that Garrison had a bad relationship with his father...because his father ''didn't'' molest him as a child!
150	* ''WesternAnimation/StuntDawgs'': When the ghost of Richard P. Fungus' grandfather showed up to finish his last movie, the two of them argued a lot. One of Fungus' complaints was that his grandfather never sent him Christmas cards.
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