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1	->''"Things that wouldn't'a bothered you a week ago in a friendship become so incredibly important when sex is involved."''
2	-->-- '''[[TheProtagonist J.D.]]''', ''Series/{{Scrubs}}''
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4	After a long battle with UnresolvedSexualTension, WillTheyOrWontThey, multiple [[MomentKiller moment killers]] and general [[ShipTease ship teasing]], it's finally time for two characters to settle into happy coupledom.
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6	Or is it?
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8	For some reason, happiness does not appear to be coming with the coupliness - blame the RuleOfDrama. Traits they formerly laughed off about each other are suddenly causing long bickering sessions that can result in one party storming off while the other stands there and cries; stuff they used to enjoy together has become boring and immature, since they're a couple now and should do more couple-oriented things (this view is often posited by female characters, and usually leads to more bickering).
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10	For some unknown reason, these two characters, who were best friends that got along great a week ago, have been dancing TheMasochismTango ever since they got a RelationshipUpgrade.
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12	To sum up: they got together, now they fight. Sex just changes everything. The polar opposite of SexEqualsLove.
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14	This can be really jarring for an audience that's used to this pair being friendly and supportive of one another. More often than not, these characters have never fought like this with each other before (and sometimes, they've never fought with ''anyone'' like this before). If this happens with a FanPreferredCouple, it can be read as a TakeThat against the 'shippers.
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16	Can be TruthInTelevision if PlatonicLifePartners actually do hook up and things don't exactly work out. It's the reason some people say IDontWantToRuinOurFriendship, and other couples realise they really are BetterAsFriends.
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18	This is a specific subtrope of the ResetButton and the "loss of love when sex enters the picture" version of RomanceAndSexualitySeparation.
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20	!!Examples:
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24	* Discussed in ''Manga/RandomWalk'', when Yuka recounts a story to Touko about her first boyfriend. Said (now ex-)boyfriend was very a good friend of hers, and due to their closeness, they decided to try going steady. However, things became awkward between the two, and instead of getting closer to each other, their relationship became strained. They broke up, but eventually becomes [[AmicableExes close friends again]] after one year of separation.
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28	* ''ComicBook/UltimateXMen'': When he was first introduced, Wolverine got into the classic Jean-Scott-Logan love triangle. Jean hated him from then on (not for the act in itself, but because he revealed his true mission during it).
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32	* A main element in ''Film/OnChesilBeach''. Florence and Edward are madly in love with one another, but on their wedding night, which they both approach as virgins, their relationship hits a snag when they try to finally do the deed.
33	* [[DiscussedTrope Discussed]] in ''Film/SayAnything'' - after [[VirginVision Corey and D.C. figure out Lloyd has slept with Diane]], Lloyd tries to act like nothing will change between him and Diane, but Corey isn't having any of it:
34	-->'''Corey''': Lloyd, listen to me - ''everything'' has changed. You've had sex! No matter what you might think, nothing will ever be the same between you two. You might be 60, you might be walking down the street, and you'll talk to her about something, whatever - but what you'll really be thinking is, "We had sex."
35	* A major part of ''Film/WhenHarryMetSally''. Though they weren't fighting over petty things as much as rehashing things to figure out how they work as a couple. Still an example but not as petty as other versions.
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39	* In the fourth ''Literature/TheSisterhoodOfTheTravelingPants'', this happens between Tibby and Brian. They had become a couple at the end of the previous summer but didn't have sex until the beginning of the next summer. After a mishap with a condom, Tibby believes she may be pregnant and promptly freaks out. They don't fight so much as she refuses to talk to him.
40	* Happened before ''Literature/CyberJolyDrim'' starts, but the protagonist's [[UnwantedSpouse husband]] remains blissfully oblivious.
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44	* On ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'', when J.D and Elliot hooked up the first time, the entire next episode (which was unusually long when originally aired, no less) was devoted to having them essentially tear each other apart until they called it quits.
45	* Ross and Rachel of ''Series/{{Friends}}'': A. Ross and Rachel kiss. Everything'll be great now, right? Ross writes a list of Rachel and Julie, pros and cons. This infuriates Rachel, and she dumps him. B. Later on, they get together for real. The relationship lasts the better part of a year, but Ross gets jealous of Rachel's new job and her coworker Mark. Some misunderstandings and a sleepover with the hot copier girl, and they break up. C. Later on, Rachel says that she'll be with Ross again if he accepts full responsibility. He agrees not knowing what he was agreeing to. They break up again. D. They get drunk in Las Vegas and get married, then divorced. E. Rachel gets pregnant. Cue fighting about whether to get married or not. I've probably skipped a few steps in here, but you get the idea. The creators dangle the carrot in front of us and yank it away over and over again, knowing we'll fall for it every single time.
46	** And possibly because of the sheer frustration of Ross and Rachel's relationship when Monica and Chandler had sex, none of this happened. When they argued it was mostly about legitimate couples stuff and they resolved it more often than not by listening to each other and being mindful of the fact that they were different people who would occasionally differ on things. This was partly because they were extremely close prior hook-up but unlike Ross and Rachel weren't hiding hopes for 'more' and starry-eyed. Instead, Monica and Chandler were well-aware of each other's faults but still best friends who openly admitted they loved each other. You sensed for them the step from platonic to romantic love was a natural one, as they had a stable basis for their relationship.
47	* In ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'', sleeping with Buffy triggers the loophole in Angel's curse and ''robs him of his soul,'' turning him from TheAtoner into a monster. As if the subtext wasn't obvious enough, Buffy uses the mundane version of this trope to explain away to her mother how she could have slept with someone now so evidently psychotic.
48	** Spike argues this InUniverse in Season 6. Buffy, however, continues to insist ItDoesntMeanAnything, a contributing factor to their DestructiveRomance.
49	* Maddie and David on ''Series/{{Moonlighting}}'' weren't exactly the best of friends, but they had a stable working relationship. When they became romantically involved, things got much more difficult, with their typical LikeAnOldMarriedCouple bickering turning into vicious fights, Maddie getting pregnant then losing the baby, and Maddie marrying another man on a whim.
50	* Betty and Henry on ''Series/UglyBetty'', resulting in ShippingBedDeath.
51	* In ''Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration,'' Picard is sent back in time with a chance to alter a critical point in his life. Along the way, he winds up sleeping with someone who he'd previously only been friends with and finds he wound up destroying their relationship as a result.
52	* Invoked, but averted, in ''Series/DoctorWho'''s "The Lodger." After the Doctor gets Craig and Sophie to admit their feelings for one another, they decide to "totally ruin their friendship." In the sequel episode the following year, they are HappilyMarried with a little boy named Alfie, or as he likes to call himself, "Stormageddon, Dark Lord of All."
53	* ''Series/{{Seinfeld}}'': This is the A-plot of the Season 2 episode "[[SeinfeldS2E9TheDeal The Deal]]". Jerry and Elaine (after several years of being AmicableExes) decide to try out being FriendsWithBenefits through the application of three rules: (1) No calling the other party the day after sex; (2) staying the night is optional; and (3) the kiss goodnight is optional. Jerry and Elaine promptly fall into fighting about these rules as though they were a couple; realizing this [[ResetButton they promptly break off their physical relationship]] [[BetterAsFriends to remain friends]].
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57	* In ''VideoGame/MassEffect2'', Jack will offer you casual sex early on, but if you take her up on the offer, she will subsequently refuse to talk to you. If you choose to [[RomanceSidequest romance her]], no sex is involved at any point until ''VideoGame/MassEffect3''.
58	* A PG version happens in ''VideoGame/TalesOfXillia2''. The spirit [[TheTease Muzet]] talks about her experiences with [[IntimateHealing direct tethering]], which involves a human [[DoesThisRemindYouOfAnything filing a spirit with their mana]]. When the usually [[TheStoic stoic]] [[TheComicallySerious Gaius]] realises the implications of what he's done with her, he is absolutely ''mortified'' and starts rambling to himself about how he has to take responsibility.
59	* After getting deflowered at the end of ''VideoGame/LeisureSuitLarry'' 7, Shamara undergoes a complete personality change at the beginning of LSL 8.
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63	* Invoked three times in ''VisualNovel/DaughterForDessert'':
64	** The morning after the protagonist and Amanda make love for the first time, Kathy asks the protagonist how his talk with Amanda went. If he tells the whole truth (“We had sex”), Kathy says that he made a big mistake because of the implications of sex.
65	** If the protagonist, Kathy, and Heidi have threesomes during the story, [[spoiler:Heidi pulls away from their second one. When the protagonist goes after her, Heidi says that she’s not into casual sex; sharing her body is a commitment for her. Thus, he has to choose right then and there whether to commit to Heidi, or to someone else.]]
66	** If the protagonist decides to break things off with Amanda, he says that it could be unhealthy or even dangerous to continue their relationship.
67	--->'''Protagonist:''' There are long-term consequences to doing what we did.
68	* ''VisualNovel/DoubleHomework'':
69	** Ultimately subverted with Johanna. While she’s a little more cautious about sex than Tamara is, and acts more guilty about anything sexual at first, Johanna is nothing but accepting if the protagonist decides to break things off with her and Tamara in favor of one of their classmates.
70	** Zigzagged with Tamara. She initially offers the protagonist guilt-free sexual gratification, and then moves to accepting a three-way relationship with him and Johanna. If he ends things with her and Johanna, however, Tamara throws a fit, and gives him the silent treatment until [[spoiler:she can’t go any longer without a conversation that she enjoys]]. Still, even though she supports the protagonist’s new relationship, she’s not overjoyed about it either.
71	* ''VisualNovel/{{Melody}}'':
72	** Zigzagged with the protagonist and Isabella if he accepts her initial advances. Since both of them went through through recent breakups, they agree to a one-night stand to keep things casual. However, Isabella wants more once she’s had the first taste, and she says so. If the player chooses, the protagonist can start dating Isabella at that point.
73	** Exaggerated with Becca, who briefly dated her best friend years before. They broke up soon after doing the deed, leaving Becca so distraught that she didn’t dare get close to anyone outside her family for a long time.
74	** Discussed between the protagonist and Amy if she tries to seduce him after her birthday dinner. The protagonist, who has the more level head, tells her that they should hold off on sex so Melody’s lessons wouldn’t be jeopardized if something were to happen between Amy and himself.
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78	* Seems to have happened to Marten and Dora in ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'', although not to the point of totally driving out affection. Mostly it just seems to have brought out Dora's [[GreenEyedMonster jealous streak]]. Everything else is as normal as it can be when everyone you hang with has [[DysfunctionJunction crippling neuroses]].
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