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6This is a trope about fictional portrayals of gay men's weddings, in which one of them will invariably be wearing a white tuxedo, and the other a black tuxedo. The reason for this trope is that a white tuxedo functions as a man's take on the bride's white dress. Sometimes, a GenderFlip will be seen in which two women marry and one of them, usually a ButchLesbian, wears [[{{Bifauxnen}} a black tuxedo, pantsuit, or skirt suit]] while the other, often a LipstickLesbian, wears a traditional wedding dress.
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8While the lesbian variant is popular in real life, for men this became a DiscreditedTrope once more open gay men started telling their own stories. One need only take a look at the wedding blog [[https://mensvows.com Men's Vows]] to learn that it's far more common for gay male grooms to either wear matching suits or their respective favorite colors to their wedding, specifically to ''avoid'' implying that one of them is the "bride." Even if one of them is a professional DragQueen, he'll still wear a suit to his wedding rather than a FairytaleWeddingDress, since it's the actual person getting married and not the stage persona.
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10See also MasculineFeminineGayCouple, another trope in which same-sex couples play opposite-sex roles.
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18* In the final ''Advertising/LongLongMan'' commercial, a man wears a white tux, but he's marrying a woman. [[spoiler:Then the Long Long Man shows up in a black tux (with a very long tail) and proposes to Tooru, the white-tuxed man in question, who accepts it (because Chi-chan, the woman he was marrying, previously cheated on Tooru with Long Long Man) retroactively turning it into an example of this trope.]]
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22* ''Franchise/LyricalNanoha:'' A piece of official artwork shows Nanoha and Fate marrying, with Fate in a suit and Nanoha in a dress.
23* ''Anime/StrikeWitches:'' In one episode, Eila has an ImagineSpot of marrying Sanya in a Church with Sanya in a white bridal gown and herself in a black tuxedo.
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26[[folder:Comic Books]]
27* ''ComicBook/AlanFord'': Gender Inverted example. When co-protagonist Minuette Macon temporarly divorces Alan to marry the Baroness Isolde Von Strascen [[note]] (in context, the Baroness has to marry in order to get her hands on a billion euro for herself, and because Alan was too honest to accept and the will didn't say anything about marrying another woman Minuette offered herself in exchange for a hundred million dollars)[[/note]], the former wears a very feminine dress with a diadem, the Baroness is impeccably dressed in a groom's tuxedo.
28* ''ComicBook/TheAuthority'': Midnighter wore a white version of his costume when he married Apollo. They also tend to be drawn in outfits like this in fanart, but with the colors reversed, since their uniforms are white and black.
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32%%* ''Film/SexAndTheCity2'' uses this in the wedding of the main characters' two {{Gay Best Friend}}s.
33%%* ''Film/INowPronounceYouChuckAndLarry''
34* Strange variant in the ''Film/TheRockyHorrorPictureShow'', when a wedding march plays and Rocky and Frank N. Furter walk off to Rocky's room together. Frank N. Furter is wearing female lingerie, and Rocky is wearing male.
35* In ''Film/BabyMama'', a small child asks what a lesbian is and is told it's "a woman who wears pants to her wedding."
36* ''Film/Bruno2009'': When BrĂ¼no winds up with his assistant, Lutz, at the end of the film, a photo of the two of them in white tuxes holding their adopted black son OJ, is hanging in their house.
37* ''Film/INowPronounceYouChuckAndLarry'' (pictured): Despite being the page image, this is actually a major subversion as the titular "grooms" (Creator/AdamSandler and Creator/KevinJames, respectively) are both really heterosexual friends only ''posing'' as a married gay couple so that Larry's kids can be insurance beneficiaries due to a bizarre coverage policy.
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40[[folder:Literature]]
41* ''Literature/LoveOverGold'' has a lesbian example. On their wedding day, Diane wears the traditional white dress, while Katrien wears a black dress.
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44[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
45* ''Series/NoahsArc'': In the movie, the tuxes are light gray.
46* ''Series/HappyEndings'': Eric wore one to his wedding with Derrick. Oddly enough, Derrick is by far the more effeminate, yet was wearing a conventional black suit.
47* Averted on ''Series/{{Glee}}'': Kurt and Blaine were both wearing white suits to Brittany and Santana's wedding since they were part of the wedding party. But when they last minute decide to get married and make it a double wedding, they both change into black (albeit different) tuxes.
48* Averted on ''Series/{{Roseanne}}'', where Scott and Leon both wear black suits for their wedding.
49* GenderFlipped on ''Series/TheLastManOnEarth''. [[spoiler:When Gail and Erica get married, Gail wears a black dress.]]
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53* Averted in ''VideoGame/Borderlands3'': neither of the grooms wear tuxes, because [[spoiler:they spontaneously decide to get married in the corpse of an EldritchAbomination]].
54* ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyXIV'' allows players to marry each other in an Eternal Bond. Since two players of the same gender can be wed, they can choose whatever colors they want for their tux or dress.
55* In ''Anime/KingOfPrism: Prism Rush! LIVE'', [[spoiler:Louis and Shin]] have a wedding in one event. While the white/black motif was already present for the pair, [[spoiler:Louis]] actually does one better by sporting a dress to the wedding.
56* In the in-game gag manga for ''VideoGame/PrincessConnectReDive'', Jun [[spoiler:jokingly]] says she would have to marry anyone who sees her face. CatGirl Matsuri, who really wants to see Jun's face, imagines the two of them getting married with Jun wearing a wedding dress over her suddenly white armor, and Matsuri wearing a white tux.
57* ''VideoGame/StoryOfSeasons'':
58** Zig-zagged In ''VideoGame/StoryOfSeasonsFriendsOfMineralTown''. Both the female player character and their chosen bachelorette will wear white dresses in a gay/"Best Friend" wedding, but the male player character wears a white tux regardless of the spouse's gender.
59** ''VideoGame/StoryOfSeasonsPioneersOfOliveTown'' allows the PlayerCharacter to choose between several wedding outfits, the two male-coded ones being a black tux and a light gray tux. Meanwhile, each potential groom will show up at the wedding in a different outfit, resulting in this trope being possible, but hard to plan for unless the NonPlayerCharacter groom's outfit, which is supposed to be a surprise during normal gameplay, is known in advance. For the record and extra context:
60*** Ralph's tux has a white jacket (and black pants), while Emilio's is completely white, so the straight version will happen if the PlayerCharacter groom picks the black tux.
61*** A downplayed version induced by the PlayerCharacter groom picking the light gray tux can happen if the other groom is Damon, who wears a black tux.
62*** Jack will show up in a navy blue tux and Iori in a colorful FarEast style outfit respectively, which keeps the trope from happening in any shape of form.
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66* Averted, or maybe doubled, in ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'', with the marriage of [[spoiler:Henry and Maurice.]] Both grooms are in white.
67* PlayedWith in ''Webcomic/{{Shortpacked}}:'' Robin is the "groom" of her and Leslie's wedding, and wears what looks like a white tuxedo top with a skirt, [[http://www.shortpacked.com/comic/are-you-ready seen in the last panel]].
68* While Lisa wears a wedding dress when she and Ally get married in ''Webcomic/{{Sunstone}}'', Ally opts for a very smart-looking white skirt-suit with white nylons and heels.
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72* Inverted in ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'': Big Gay Al and Mr. Slave ''both'' wear dresses when they get married.
73* In ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', Patty [[spoiler: nearly]] gets married in a suit, while her bride [[spoiler: really a cross-dressing man]] wears a dress.
74* When [[spoiler:Ruby and Sapphire]] get married in ''WesternAnimation/StevenUniverse'', the usual conventions are reversed: the more butch of the two is the one wearing the wedding dress, while the more feminine one wears the tuxedo. [[spoiler:When they fuse after the wedding, [[Characters/StevenUniverseGarnet Garnet]] wears a snazzy tux/dress combo.]]
75* Subverted in ''WesternAnimation/VoltronLegendaryDefender'': [[spoiler: Shiro and his newlywed husband Curtis]] both wear white tuxes at their wedding in the final scene.
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78[[folder:Real Life]]
79* Creator/EllenDeGeneres wore a white suit at her wedding to Creator/PortiaDeRossi, who wore a dress.
80* Subverted by real life couple Creator/GeorgeTakei and his current husband Brad Altman. At their 2008 wedding they both wore white tuxes.
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