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2* ''Series/ScarletHeart'': Ming Yu slaps Yin E hard enough to bruise his face because he said her temper is worse than Ruo Xi's. When Yin E tells his brothers they react like he's making a fuss over nothing.
3* The soap opera ''Series/{{Neighbours}}'' has Yashvi "[[SarcasmMode hilariously]]" punch Ben in the groin because she was annoyed with him. Steph shouts in her stepson Boyd's face and punches Paul for jilting her mother at the altar. When Rhys angrily raises his voice to Susan, Vanessa is appalled that he thinks it's alright to "talk to women like that."
4* Played straight in ''Series/TheNewsroom''. Sloan Sabbith pushes Neal Sampat against the wall for making up imaginary insults for her.
5* ''Series/AmericasFunniestHomeVideos'' plays a video of an angry woman at a wedding party who punches a man in the head when he attempts to remove the bride's garter with his teeth.
6* In ''Series/{{Cops}}'' a girlfriend accuses her boyfriend of hitting her. The boyfriend is bloodied, scratched up, and his shirt is ripped apart but the girlfriend doesn't have a mark on her. She plants drugs in her boyfriend's car and the boyfriend is arrested for assault and drug possession.
7* Subverted in an episode of ''Series/{{Friends}}'' when Joey's new girlfriend hits him hard while trying to be playful. His friends laugh at him for being terrified of her. When Joey protests the hitting, she says "Oh, you're making fun of me! Stop making fun of me!" and hits him harder. Rachel [[AnAesop realizes how wrong they were to joke about after experiencing it for herself]], and since Joey can't get away with hitting her back, Rachel does it for him.
8* ''Series/TwoAndAHalfMen''
9** In one episode, Charlie falls ill, so [[StalkerWithACrush Rose]] comes to "take care of him." [[StalkingIsFunnyIfItIsFemaleAfterMale She drugs him for weeks, controls his every movement, and locks the doors.]]
10** In the season finale, it's revealed that Rose faked Charlie's death and kept him prisoner in her house for four years after she caught Charlie cheating on her during their honeymoon. Rose [[DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale shot him with tranquilizers before sex]]. Charlie's mother and brother shrug this off and call the police on Charlie when he escapes from Rose and says he'll get revenge.
11* {{Lampshade|Hanging}}d in the ''Series/RedDwarf'' special "Can't Smeg, Won't Smeg", when Lister says that whenever a woman can't come up with a good comeback, they always hit people. Kochanski responds by whacking him with a frying pan.
12* ''Tool Academy'' shows the girlfriends slapping and punching their JerkAss boyfriends after their improprieties have been revealed.
13* In ''Series/JerseyShore'' [=JWoww=] hits The Situation, and Sammi punches Ronnie in the face.
14* ''Series/ICarly'':
15** In "iMeet Fred" Sam beats Freddie with a tennis racquet until it breaks, pushes him out of a treehouse and jumps down on top of him.
16** In "iSell Penny-Tees" Sam pushes Freddie onto a couch and spanks him.
17** In "iFight Shelby Marx," it is implied Carly, Sam, and Shelby beat up Nevel.
18* ''Series/{{Charmed|1998}}'':
19** Prue (albeit accidentally) using her powers to nearly strangle her ex with his own tie is PlayedForLaughs.
20** Due to a misunderstanding, Prue walks off in a huff and stops Andy from chasing after her by telekinetically moving a desert cart in front of him. He trips over it and could have easily broken his neck, but the narrative sides with Prue for being the injured party.
21** Prue also discovers one of her boyfriends has a twin brother he's been lying about. When she finds out, she slaps him. Admittedly light and playfully, but then she slaps the twin with visible force "for thinking you wouldn't get slapped". Again, this is presented as empowering.
22** Phoebe, on being reunited with her demon ex-boyfriend Cole, gives him an unprovoked punch to the face for returning. Possibly hand-waved with Cole being stronger than a normal human, but unlikely to be played straight with the genders reversed.
23** Phoebe and Cole's MeetCute is prompted when he approaches her from behind in the college courtyard, taps her on the shoulder, and she goes to give him a ''roundhouse kick''. It's presented as cute that her first instinct is to kick someone from behind.
24** Invoked by the Source, when he tries to get Paige to use her powers for evil; convincing her to give a supposedly abusive father a heart attack, and that she'd only be [[PayEvilUntoEvil getting rid of an evildoer]]. The others however do their best to stop her, as it would be counted as an act of evil.
25** Paige rescues her office lech from a magical mob of admirers, and he regains consciousness with her [[BreastExpansion magically enlarged breasts]] right in his face. When he says "ooh", Paige punches him in the head to knock him out. Phoebe ''does'' reprimand her for it, but it's still played for comedy because he was an AssholeVictim.
26** Phoebe casually remarks "Are you kidding me? How many times has Piper blown up Leo?" Piper tries to blow him up out of anger for something he didn't do, but couldn't due to the magic disappearing. This is especially odd, as the first time she does it, it's a KickTheDog and a sign that she's turning into a Fury. She only does it when under an evil spell but it's treated as a mild annoyance (although in one episode when she thinks he's really dead and comes out of the enchantment, she's horrified). Paige however gets in on this by testing a vanquishing spell she's intended for Cole on Leo. He's pissed but it's still shown as a light-hearted moment.
27** Another Cole example. In "Happily Ever After", Phoebe is wrongfully convinced that he's responsible for the demon of the week coming after them. [[ItMakesSenseInContext When Paige is temporarily dead]], Phoebe punches him with visible force, although she is [[BreakTheHaughty forced to make a reluctant apology later]]. The double standard is highlighted when Cole under the Siren's spell tries to strangle Phoebe being presented as horrific, and him actually hitting her being shown as a MoralEventHorizon.
28** In "Battle of the Hexes" a spell causes the girls in Billie's class to attack the boys. When Phoebe and Piper talk about it, they make light of the situation.
29* In Tyler Perry's ''Series/HouseOfPayne'', an episode about domestic abuse includes a man being stomped on and electrocuted by his wife and Delante being beaten up by two women he's dating.
30* Played straight in the TV miniseries ''Betty Broderick''. Betty spends several years stalking, harassing, and terrorizing her {{Jerkass}} ex-husband and his new wife before shooting them dead. Betty is the one made out to be the victim/heroine in the ensuing murder trial.
31* In ''Series/{{Smallville}}'', Lois [[GroinAttack kicks a man]] for removing her from the premises.
32* ''Series/TheCosbyShow'': Cliff forgets something about his wedding and Claire "puts him in a headlock."
33* In ''Series/HomeAndAway'' local cop Angelo Rosetta is assaulted by a woman twice while trying to solve crimes and arrest suspects. He tries to charge one of them with assaulting a police officer, but his fellow officers let her go because they liked her more than him.
34* In ''Series/RobinHood'', Marian punches Robin in the stomach so hard that he doubles over in pain because she's frustrated. This is played for laughs.
35%%* In ''Series/ParksAndRec'' Rons' relationships with his two ex-wives - Tammy 1 and Tammy 2 - are both subversions, as they are shown to be abusive and the characters try to help him get out of it. Tammy 1 is the more overtly abusive as she is a cold-hearted ControlFreak who abuses her position as an IRS agent to reassert control of his finances and his life; Tammy 2 is more emotionally manipulative and talks him into doing things he otherwise wouldn't do while being violently abusive to other characters - her most overt abuse was towards Councilman Jeremy Jamm, an otherwise unpleasant man whom Ron normally dislikes, but can't resist helping when he gets into a relationship with Tammy 2 that sees her withhold sex, force him to change his wardrobe and dietary habits (while ignoring his health problems), and reducing him to neurotic slavish wreck.
36%%** Mona-Lisa Saperstein starts dating Tom for a few episodes. Their relationship is clearly shown to include financial, emotional, and sexual abuse, and he repeatedly tries to break up with her and gets intimidated or tricked into staying, although Tom and everyone quickly realise how bad an idea it is and he (with some help) breaks up with her in the space of two episodes.
37%%** Played straight with Donna Meagle when she tells Ron that her love interest Joe is her "Tammy", which Ron takes to mean that Joe is an abusive BitchInSheepsClothing until he realises that he's [[SheepInSheepsClothing actually a genuinely nice guy]]; Donna tells Ron that she meant that she changes when he's around him (i.e. becomes more introverted as he is), and didn't consider that as Ron might not appreciate comparing her loving if slightly boring relationship with his two abusive relationships.
38* ''Series/SaturdayNightLive'':
39** A sketch mocks Tiger Woods' alleged abuse by his wife.
40** In a sketch from the early eighties, a husband arrives home late from a party to an angry wife who attacks him and then leaves with their children. When the husband's friend comes over, he teases him for it. When the husband tries to report the beating, the policeman doesn't believe him. The wife comes back, tries coaxing him into opening the door, busts through the door and attacks him.
41* For ''Series/EverybodyLovesRaymond'', Debra could practically be the embodiment - at least in the later seasons - with most times she attacks Ray [[PlayedForLaughs played for humor]].
42** In "The Ride-Along" Debra hits him in the chest after he reveals he witnessed an attempted robbery.
43** In "Bad Moon Rising", he calls her out and she shoves him into the bookshelf so hard that books actually fall. [[DracoInLeatherPants The studio audience laughs and cheers every time Debra does it]], the other characters make lighthearted jokes about her anger issues.
44* ''Series/TheKingOfQueens'': Carrie teaches a girlfriend of Spence to be verbally abusive to him.
45** In "Van, Go" Doug butts heads with a rude waitress. The manager reprimands the waitress, then she threatens to "gut (him) like a deer" when he leaves. The waitress beats him up off-screen and this is played for laughs.
46** Carrie pushes Doug down the stairs when he prioritizes his grilled cheese over getting his suit fitted. Instead of apologizing, she blames him and says he didn't do what she told him to do.
47%%** She also feels comfortable enough physically abusing Deacon, Danny, and Spence.
48* ''Series/TheFreshPrinceOfBelAir'': In "It Had to be You", Will goes on a date with Jazz' sister who at first seems rather sweet. After one date, she starts speaking to him in a rude tone and becomes controlling. She chooses his wardrobe and buys him a beeper to keep track of him 24/7. When Will tells his aunt and uncle about this, they shrug it off. Carlton tells her off, which makes her act demure and polite. This has major UnfortunateImplications: Will is told that when a girl acts abusively as she did, it's his job to show her who the man is in the relationship.
49* ''Series/GameOfThrones'': The Season 6 character Lady Crane is portrayed as a good person who is being wrongly targeted by the Faceless Men, but she eventually reveals to an injured Arya that her medical experience comes from all the times she's ''stabbed her lovers out of jealousy''. She says this as casually as talking about the weather, as if stabbing her boyfriends was justified because they were men, and the narrative certainly doesn't disagree with her, and neither does Arya. It made a handful of viewers wonder if she really ''was'' deserving of death, and if Arya's decision to spare her was a mistake.
50* ''Series/MemphisBeat'' subverts this when one of the male police officers is verbally abused by his wife over the phone. Later he comes in with odd bandages. Three other officers - Whitehead, Dwight, and their boss - ask him what happened, and he says, "My wife stabbed me" as though it were no big deal. Whitehead tells him he should stand up to his wife. Dwight tells the officer he shouldn't let his wife push him around. It's later implied she's being booked for assault when it shows them standing together in the booking line.
51* Played straight in ''Hawthorne'' when Christina's BrattyTeenageDaughter Camille comes in with a black eye, Christina believes her boyfriend Marcus hit her and she chases Marcus through the ER throwing things at him. Later she finds out Camille attacked him after mistakenly believing Marcus was cheating on her, and in the process tripped and hit her face on a defibrillator. Christina responds by saying, "What were you thinking, laying your hands on a man? Do you know what he could have done to you?"
52* In season 6 of ''Series/HardcorePawn'', a man tries to sell his wife's ring to buy parts for his motorcycle. The wife punches him several times and Ashley finds the situation funny. In a later episode, a woman is frustrated because her bracelet is not worth as much as she thought and berates her man. He shoves her out of the way to leave and Ashley is shocked.
53* ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'':
54** In the fourth episode, Ted dates a girl who studies Krav Maga. She beats him up in a crowded restaurant. When he tells his friends and children, what happened, they laugh because he 'got beat up by a girl'. In the 21st episode of season 5, Ted reveals that the crowd in the restaurant ''cheered her on''.
55** In an episode where Ted dates someone Robin doesn't like, she punches him in the throat.
56%%** Lily repeatedly hits the boys whenever she thinks they did something stupid or insensitive, and it's always PlayedForLaughs.
57* ''Series/{{NCIS}}'':
58** Played straight in the Season 6 finale "Aliyah", when Ziva, upset that Tony shot her boyfriend to death in self-defense, pins Tony to the ground and points her gun at him. This is brushed over and Ziva is treated as the one who was wronged.
59* ''Series/DoctorWho'':
60** After Jackie slaps the Ninth Doctor, Rose laughs off it off and remarks "you're so gay".
61** Donna slaps the Tenth Doctor twice in her debut episode when he invades her personal space.
62** In "[[Recap/DoctorWhoS34E7KillTheMoon Kill the Moon]]", Clara threatens to hit the Doctor so hard he'll have to regenerate.
63** According to "[[Recap/DoctorWhoS32E11TheGodComplex The God Complex]]", Amy hit Rory hard enough to knock him to the floor. At one point she asks, "Are you just agreeing with me because you're afraid of me?" and he says, "Yes."
64* Played for dark laughs on ''[[Series/ThirtyRock 30 Rock]]'' when it's implied Pete's wife hit him:
65-->'''Liz''': Pete, you and Paula fight a lot, right?
66-->'''Pete''': [''Nervous, holding his lip''] No, I-I walked into a door. I'm so clumsy.
67* Zigzagged in ''Series/{{Frasier}}''. Maris' emotional and psychological abuse of Niles is PlayedForLaughs early on, but only to the audience. Fraiser and Martin frequently comment that it's not acceptable and that he has to stand up to her.
68%%* ''Series/TheItCrowd'': PlayedForLaughs in the first episode, when Roy is beaten up by a female colleague after an argument over the phone. Jen seems to approve.
69* ''Series/TheMuppetShow'': Miss Piggy is a quintessential example of this trope, frequently sending co-stars Kermit, Gonzo, and others flying across the room with her trademark karate chops. That said, it should be noted that much (though not all) of the instances where she does this are in response to Kermit or someone else saying something insensitive or mean-spirited to her, usually about her weight or being a pig (i.e. Kermit's dig about her living in a pig sty and rolling around in the mud).
70* Played straight in [[Series/ShamelessUS the U.S. version]] of ''Shameless''. After Steve smuggles Frank over the border, Fiona punches him in the face. It's treated as justified.
71%%* ''Series/MalcolmInTheMiddle''
72%%** Lois also makes comments about changing or punishing Hal. He's shown to be afraid of her when she's angry on at least one occasion.
73%%**It's deconstructed since Francis, the eldest son, is shown to hate his mother for what she put him through.
74%%* Averted in ''Series/FatherTed'' with John and Mary. They are both horribly abusive to one another, verbally and physically. Violence from either party towards the other is always played for laughs and Mary gives just as good as She gets.
75* ''Series/CoronationStreet'':
76** PlayedForLaughs when during their wedding reception, Terry learns that Steve cheated on her then she punches him in the face during their first dance.
77** PlayedStraight with Tyrone Dobbs' abuse at the hands of his fiancee Kirsty Soames, which briefly resulted in Tyrone being mistaken as the abuser by the other residents of the street and being taken into custody, before Kirsty finally came clean.
78** {{Subverted}} with Geoff Metcalfe's coercive abuse of his wife Yaseen Nazir. At a point when Geoff's abuse appears to be escalating to violence, Yasmeen defends herself by breaking a wine bottle over his head before stabbing him in the neck with its broken remains. The police are called, cue Yasmeen's arrest and detainment, and Geoff warping what really happened to present Yas as a violent alcoholic, which many have no choice but to believe. Yasmeen's name was eventually cleared.
79* Discussed in British puppet adult comedy series Mongrels. The satirical song "Just a Little Tap on the Nose" is about how female-on-male abuse is downplayed and rationalized.
80* ''Series/{{The Office|US}}'': The cantankerous relationship between Jan and Michael would probably never happen if the roles were reversed.
81%%** But, Andy later gets punched by Kelly, and it's again PlayedForLaughs.
82* ''Series/StepByStep'':
83** Played straight when Mark is picked on by a female bully. Frank is disgusted that Mark is "letting" a girl push him around, and he can't believe Carol isn't embarrassed by her son's behavior. Subverted when Al threatens the bully, and when Mark's family supports him when he stands up for himself.
84* On ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'':
85** PlayedForLaughs in "[[{{Recap/StarTrekDeepSpaceNineS04E13Crossfire}} Crossfire]]", Kira and Odo are reading over the criminal activity reports when they get to a domestic assault case. ''[[HotBlooded Kira]]'' asks why the husband stays with his wife when she beats him so often. Later that same night they are [[AManIsAlwaysEager arrested for "Public Lewdness."]]
86* In the pilot episode of ''Series/SavingGrace'', Grace has sex with a married colleague. The next time she sees him, he has a black eye from his wife. When she asks him about it, he says it's "Nothing I didn't deserve."
87%%* The Investigation Discovery series ''Deadly Women'' often subverts this, as many of the women featured in the series had either been psychopathic or sociopathic. The ones who premeditated the murders didn't get off as light, but it's not subverted when they actually get off relatively light. Sometimes, it's actually played straight ''and'' subverted at the same time.
88%%* Played in ''Series/WizardsOfWaverlyPlace'': Alex does this ''constantly'' to Justin, both physically and mentally. She's just joking around, but still.
89* Exploited in season nine of ''Series/GreysAnatomy''. Jo and Jason get into an argument and she hits him. Jason hits her in self-defense, giving her a black eye. He ends up in the ER after cracking his head open on the floor. Jason wants to press charges, but Alex threatens him, saying he'll ruin his reputation by telling people he hit his girlfriend. He states when a woman hits you, you need to take it or walk away, and that "all people are going to hear is that you hit her."
90* Played for laughs in the Mexican sitcom ''Series/ElChavoDelOcho''. Doña Florinda unfairly blames Don Ramón for everything that happens with her overprotected son Quico and slaps Don Ramón in every episode. She spanks him to the point of inflicting injuries. However Don Ramón never calls the police.
91** It becomes a DiscussedTrope in one episode. El Chavo claims men must not hurt women, but Doña Florinda says it only applies if women earn their respect, and not to take advantage of that to hurt men without fear of retaliation.
92* ''Franchise/SuperSentai'':
93** ''Series/ZyudenSentaiKyoryuger'' shows Rin hitting and yelling at Souji when he upsets her or doesn't realize her crush on him. He's shown to find girls "scary" and is visibly alarmed when he has a dream of going on a date with her. Her actions are played for laughs and presented as somewhat justified since Souji doesn't acknowledge that he is supposed to fall for her.
94%%* ''Series/GossipGirl'' Blair has pulled Chuck's hair, stomped on his foot and slapped him on several occasions.
95* ''Series/DesperateHousewives''
96** Susan breaks into another man's car to spy on someone. When he notices this, she traps his head in the window and makes him apologize for all the women he wronged. A police officer stops her, but Susan gets no punishment.
97** Susan attacks Paul and is stopped by Beth. Beth confronts her about it and she brushes it off.
98** In the pilot episode, Tom comes home from a business trip to a kid-exhausted Lynette, wanting sex. They realize they don't have a condom and Tom suggests chancing it. Lynette punches his lights out.
99* Ed Hurley in ''Series/TwinPeaks'' worries about what's going to happen if his wife (who has SuperStrength) finds out about his affair with another woman: "If Nadine found out about me and Norma, I'd be playing harp for the Heavenly All Stars!" The sheriff laughs and treats it as a joke.
100* Discussed in Mexican SoapOpera ''La Rosa de Gudalupe'', in an episode dealing with the physical and psychological abuse that a teenage boy gets from his girlfriend. He says that he couldn't be a victim of violence since AllAbusersAreMale.
101* In one sketch of ''The Checkout'', PlayedForLaughs when a woman hits her husband after finding out he wasted their money on lint rollers.
102* Discussed in a 2011 episode of ''The Talk'' when they talk about a California man who was castrated by his wife. Co-host Sharon Osbourne is giddy about the situation, and a large part of the audience feeds off that. Most of the female co-hosts join in, but Sarah Gilbert argues it is sexist to laugh when mutilating a woman would not be funny.
103* ''Series/AgentCarter'' has a few examples:
104** As a woman in a male-dominated profession in TheForties, Peggy faces a lot of sexim and takes offense to it. More than once she punches a guy for being rude and derisive (including her NiceGuy LoveInterest).
105** A customer verbally and sexually assaults Peggy's waitress friend. Peggy threatens him with a fork against a vital artery to tip her friend generously and never return to the diner again. The friend is seen smiling about this and it's treated as a badass heroic moment.
106** Peggy and Jarvis talk to women that Howard Stark has slept with. Every woman slaps Jarvis after their one-night-stand. Peggy intervenes once, only because she wants to look at the attacker's wrist.
107* PlayedForLaughs in ''Series/{{Becker}}'', Reggie instructs a woman to bully Bob into a relationship. Later, we see her physically forcing Bob on a date, while he is unwilling and crying.
108* ''Series/TheMrPotatoHeadShow'': Queenie Sweet Potato gets away with slapping Mr. Potato Head often. {{Downplayed|Trope}} in that he never seems to find the slaps very painful.
109* ''Series/ShortRibbs'' in a supermarket sketch that spoofs the "Don't Squeeze the Charmin" commercials, Creator/PattyMaloney slaps Creator/BillyBarty when he gets attracted to her strawberry print dress.
110%%* The main characters of ''Series/{{Reba}}'' are predominately female, thus the three male characters -- Brock, Van, and Jake -- are frequent targets of the women's frustrations. Brock especially, as both Reba and Barbra Jean frequently hit and bully him, and it's always PlayedForLaughs. Van is often slapped around and berated by both Reba and his wife Cheyenne, and Kyra loves to verbally bully Van and Jake.
111* Subverted in the pilot episode of ''Series/TheRookie''. Rookie Officer John Nolan and his Training Officer, Talia Bishop, respond to a domestic disturbance call. They find a [[HugeGuyTinyGirl Huge Guy, Tiny Girl]] couple. When Nolan talks to the guy, he hints that his wife is the abuser, but is vague enough that Nolan doesn’t bring it up to Bishop. Later that day, they get another call from the same address, and they find that the wife has murdered the husband. Bishop calls Nolan out for not telling her about the guy hinting that his wife was abusive.
112* Discussed in ''Series/TheJeremyKyleShow'' when a guest tells a story of his abusive girlfriend violently assaulting him before locking him in their apartment, forcing him to jump from a third storey window and suffer additional injuries from the fall, the audience - a sizeable portion of which were female, though there were several men present as well - proceeds to laugh at him for several seconds. Jeremy proceeds to call them out on their double standards.
113* PlayedStraight in ''Series/{{Yellowstone}}''. Jamie is frequently physically and emotionally abused by his sister, Beth, and it is never called out. She even purposely pushes him towards suicide in the second season. She also calls him a coward for never hitting back, but when he ''does'' hit back once, she says that no real man would hit a woman. Their father, John, fully accepts this and only ever intervenes when ''Jamie'' defends himself... [[AbusiveParents by kicking him off the ranch and threatening to kill him.]] Even when Beth's reason for hating Jamie is revealed, the fact that the show acts like she is ''entitled'' to abuse Jamie is a large point of criticism.
114%%* ''Series/YoureTheWorst'': Lindsay stabs Paul in the flank with no remorse, and cuckolds him before Paul finally puts his foot down and divorces her. Lindsay manages to land on her feet and eventually Paul decides to remarry her, despite Lindsay not going through any character development that would imply she would treat Paul any better the second time around. While the series doesn't discredit Paul's misery, it also doesn't treat Lindsay as anything more than a lovable rascal despite her harmful behavior.

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