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6th Feb '16 3:36:38 PM DrOO7
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** Similarly, in the latest Creator/NicholasSparks offering, ''The Choice'', where the heroine cheats on her boyfriend with the hero (and he technically cheats on his on-again, off-again paramour with her), even though there is ''absolutely nothing'' wrong with him or the relationship. She carries on with the other guy for roughly a month and not until her boyfriend returns to town does she even seem to realize that there was anything wrong with her behavior.
13th Dec '15 10:11:49 AM erforce
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* In ''Film/TomorrowNeverDies''Film/, JamesBond sleeps with Paris Carver, an old girlfriend who is now married to the Bond villain Elliot Carver. Paris comes to him to warn him that her husband is onto the fact that he is a spy, and the next morning gives him information even over his protests, despite believing that her media baron husband will find and kill her wherever she goes if she doesn't go back to him. Unknown to her, Carver has already decided to have her killed for not telling him that she knew who Bond was, and when Bond gets back to his hotel room she has already been murdered by one of his assassins.
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* In ''Film/TomorrowNeverDies''Film/, JamesBond ''Film/TomorrowNeverDies'', Film/JamesBond sleeps with Paris Carver, an old girlfriend who is now married to the Bond villain Elliot Carver. Paris comes to him to warn him that her husband is onto the fact that he is a spy, and the next morning gives him information even over his protests, despite believing that her media baron husband will find and kill her wherever she goes if she doesn't go back to him. Unknown to her, Carver has already decided to have her killed for not telling him that she knew who Bond was, and when Bond gets back to his hotel room she has already been murdered by one of his assassins.
13th Dec '15 9:49:18 AM erforce
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* In ''Film/TomorrowNeverDies'' JamesBond sleeps with Paris Carver, an old girlfriend who is now married to the Bond villain Elliot Carver. Paris comes to him to warn him that her husband is onto the fact that he is a spy, and the next morning gives him information even over his protests, despite believing that her media baron husband will find and kill her wherever she goes if she doesn't go back to him. Unknown to her, Carver has already decided to have her killed for not telling him that she knew who Bond was, and when Bond gets back to his hotel room she has already been murdered by one of his assassins.
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* In ''Film/TomorrowNeverDies'' ''Film/TomorrowNeverDies''Film/, JamesBond sleeps with Paris Carver, an old girlfriend who is now married to the Bond villain Elliot Carver. Paris comes to him to warn him that her husband is onto the fact that he is a spy, and the next morning gives him information even over his protests, despite believing that her media baron husband will find and kill her wherever she goes if she doesn't go back to him. Unknown to her, Carver has already decided to have her killed for not telling him that she knew who Bond was, and when Bond gets back to his hotel room she has already been murdered by one of his assassins.

* Connie Chatterley's characterization in ''LadyChatterleysLover''. His husband was paralyzed from the waist down in WorldWarI, thus he's impotent.
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* Connie Chatterley's characterization in ''LadyChatterleysLover''.''Literature/LadyChatterleysLover''. His husband was paralyzed from the waist down in WorldWarI, thus he's impotent.
1st Dec '15 1:37:38 AM Chabal2
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* ''{{ComicBook/Blacksad}}'' has a complex case in the second album. Jezebel Karup is sleeping with Huk, the NumberTwo of the local KKK knockoff while refusing her husband Hans sex. Then it turns out that she was doing it to manipulate Huk into lynching Hans for suspected pedophilia. Then Dinah is found murdered, and Huk soon after. [[spoiler:Hans was in fact Jezebel and Dinah's ''father'', who'd abandoned them and their black mother when the racism went to his head. Killing him was Jezebel's revenge, and she murdered Huk when he killed Dinah when she might go to the cops about Hans' murder.]]
20th Nov '15 9:44:53 PM StrixObscuro
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* UsefulNotes/AmeliaEarhart in Amelia. In this case the reason she is "sympathetic" was because she is obviously remorseful and goes back to her husband who is willing to forgive.
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* UsefulNotes/AmeliaEarhart in Amelia.''Film/{{Amelia}}''. In this case the reason she is "sympathetic" was because she is obviously remorseful and goes back to her husband who is willing to forgive.

* In the second season of ''{{Friends}}'', the long drawn-out WillTheyOrWontThey relationship between Ross and Rachel takes a step forward with their first kiss, in an empty Central Perk. We are supposed to cheer for that kiss, but Ross is, in fact, committed to RomanticFalseLead Julie at that point. Played completely straight.
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* In the second season of ''{{Friends}}'', ''Series/{{Friends}}'', the long drawn-out WillTheyOrWontThey relationship between Ross and Rachel takes a step forward with their first kiss, in an empty Central Perk. We are supposed to cheer for that kiss, but Ross is, in fact, committed to RomanticFalseLead Julie at that point. Played completely straight.

* The Protagonists of ''BrokebackMountain'' are gay, thus, they're not in love with their wives, and they were more or less forced to marry due to the circumstances. * The pairing of [[SexySecretary Joan Holloway]] and [[JerkWithAHeartOfGold Roger Sterling]] in ''MadMen'' is a fan-favorite because it combines two versions of this. On Joan's end, it's "Pay Cheating Unto Evil", as her husband Greg is [[spoiler: a rapist]], and on Roger's end, it's "Pay Cheating Unto Boring", as he isn't truly happy with both his first wife [[GrandeDame Mona]] and his second wife, [[GoldDigger Jane]]. Roger and Joan make each other crazy, but happier than anyone else makes them. * An UnintentionallySympathetic example is Therese from ''ForBetterOrForWorse'', who according to a pair of GossipyHens was seeing someone before divorcing her husband [[CreatorsPet Anthony]]. However, this gossip is the ''only'' time her having an affair is ever alluded to. Even if one accepts it as truth, it can still be viewed as Pay Cheating Unto Cheating, as Anthony spent most of his marriage lusting after Liz, and the most obivous effort he ever put into making things work with Therese was pressuring her to have a child before she was ready, because BabiesMakeEverythingBetter. * ''FireEmblem: [[FireEmblemJugdral Genealogy of Holy War]]'' has Cigyun, who cheated on her husband Duke of Velthomer Victor with Prince Kurt of Grandbell, because Victor was a violent drunk who had many mistresses and mistreated her. The guy even has raped under the influence of alcohol Cigyun's personal maid (who has a result gets pregnant with what who'll be Azel, one of the main playable characters). Kurt was at first sympathetic with Cigyun's situation and was supporting her, but along the way they fell in love with each other.
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* The Protagonists protagonists of ''BrokebackMountain'' ''Film/BrokebackMountain'' are gay, thus, they're not in love with their wives, and they were more or less forced to marry due to the circumstances. * The pairing of [[SexySecretary Joan Holloway]] and [[JerkWithAHeartOfGold Roger Sterling]] in ''MadMen'' is a fan-favorite because it combines two versions of this. On Joan's end, it's "Pay Cheating Unto Evil", as her husband Greg is [[spoiler: a [[spoiler:a rapist]], and on Roger's end, it's "Pay Cheating Unto Boring", as he isn't truly happy with both either his first wife [[GrandeDame Mona]] and or his second wife, [[GoldDigger Jane]]. Roger and Joan make each other crazy, but happier than anyone else makes them. * An UnintentionallySympathetic example is Therese from ''ForBetterOrForWorse'', ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'', who according to a pair of GossipyHens was seeing someone before divorcing her husband [[CreatorsPet Anthony]]. However, this gossip is the ''only'' time her having an affair is ever alluded to. Even if one accepts it as truth, it can still be viewed as Pay Cheating Unto Cheating, as Anthony spent most of his marriage lusting after Liz, and the most obivous obvious effort he ever put into making things work with Therese was pressuring her to have a child before she was ready, because BabiesMakeEverythingBetter. * ''FireEmblem: ''VideoGame/FireEmblem: [[FireEmblemJugdral Genealogy of Holy War]]'' has Cigyun, who cheated on her husband Duke of Velthomer Victor with Prince Kurt of Grandbell, because Victor was a violent drunk who had many mistresses and mistreated her. The guy even has raped under the influence of alcohol Cigyun's personal maid (who has a result gets pregnant with what who'll be Azel, one of the main playable characters). Kurt was at first sympathetic with Cigyun's situation and was supporting her, but along the way they fell in love with each other.

* A first season episode of ''{{Friends}}'' has Joey discover that his father has been having an affair. Joey's father is portrayed fairly sympathetically, since he says that he can't help but love the other woman, loves his wife just as much, and is willing to end the affair over how much distress it's causing Joey. Joey's mother then tells him off, saying that she knew about the affair the whole time (Joey Sr. wasn't exactly the best liar) but tolerates it because it makes him a better person and a more attentive husband. Joey eventually gives his blessing to his father, who remains oblivious to his wife's knowledge.
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* A first season episode of ''{{Friends}}'' ''Series/{{Friends}}'' has Joey discover that his father has been having an affair. Joey's father is portrayed fairly sympathetically, since he says that he can't help but love the other woman, loves his wife just as much, and is willing to end the affair over how much distress it's causing Joey. Joey's mother then tells him off, saying that she knew about the affair the whole time (Joey Sr. wasn't exactly the best liar) but tolerates it because it makes him a better person and a more attentive husband. Joey eventually gives his blessing to his father, who remains oblivious to his wife's knowledge.

* In ''Series/SpartacusBloodAndSand'', Lucretia, Batiatus' wife, has been carrying on a "secret" relationship with Crixus, a gladiator. However, she is still very much in love with her husband, and he reveals late in the series that he knew about the affair and was ok with it because it made her happy.
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* In ''Series/SpartacusBloodAndSand'', Lucretia, Batiatus' wife, has been carrying on a "secret" relationship with Crixus, a gladiator. However, she is still very much in love with her husband, and he reveals late in the series that he knew about the affair and was ok okay with it because it made her happy.

* In ''Series/GameOfThrones'', Stannis Baratheon cheats on his wife Selyse with Melisandre. Later, Stannis confesses to Selyse and begs her forgiveness, but she's perfectly ok with it, because Melisandre was able to give him a son, while all of her children were stillborn or deformed. Also, Selyse is TheFundamentalist, who believes that The Red God ordered Stannis and Melisandre to sleep together. ** Later [[ByronicHero Tyrion]] marries [[TheIngenue Sansa]], but maintains the relationship with his lover/whore Shae. The marriage is arranged (or rather forced onto both of them) and Sansa, absolutely horrified of the prospect of having an intercourse with Tyrion, is quite glad that he's taking his business elsewhere, though she doesn't know the specifics, only that her husband 'has whores'. * 'Genetic Eunuch [[Franchise/{{Dune}} Hasimir Fenring]] is not entirely 'fine' with his Bene Gesserit wife breeding with other men but he shares her conviction that her activities are necessary to the evolution of mankind and he is comforted by the fact that she enjoys it no more than he does.
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* In ''Series/GameOfThrones'', Stannis Baratheon cheats on his wife Selyse with Melisandre. Later, Stannis confesses to Selyse and begs her forgiveness, but she's perfectly ok okay with it, because Melisandre was able to give him a son, while all of her children were stillborn or deformed. Also, Selyse is TheFundamentalist, who believes that The Red God ordered Stannis and Melisandre to sleep together. ** Later [[ByronicHero Tyrion]] marries [[TheIngenue Sansa]], but maintains the relationship with his lover/whore Shae. The marriage is arranged (or rather forced onto both of them) and Sansa, absolutely horrified of the prospect of having an intercourse with Tyrion, is quite glad that he's taking his business elsewhere, though she doesn't know the specifics, only that her husband 'has whores'. "has whores." * 'Genetic Eunuch "Genetic Eunuch" [[Franchise/{{Dune}} Hasimir Fenring]] is not entirely 'fine' "fine" with his Bene Gesserit wife breeding with other men men, but he shares her conviction that her activities are necessary to the evolution of mankind mankind, and he is comforted by the fact that she enjoys it no more than he does.does. * In the original ''Film/{{Emmanuelle}}'' trilogy, Jean openly encourages Emmanuelle to carry on affairs, and frequently leaves her alone for extended periods in the specific hope that she will seek out new sexual partners. Presumably, he does this to assuage his own guilt over the fact that he's ''always'' cheating on her.
20th Nov '15 7:47:35 PM ZeldaQueen64
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* In ''Literature/{{Deathless}}, Koschei the Deathless claims to be fine with Marya having affairs with other men, [[BerserkButton as long as they aren't named Ivan]]. She can tell he's lying about it not bothering him, but he's also incredibly controlling, neglects her, keeps his previous wives as slaves in a factory to make paper soldiers, and isn't exactly a faithful husband himself. Marya eventually runs away with a soldier named Ivan because he's a NiceGuy and she wants a healthy relationship. She genuinely loves both Koschei and Ivan, which leads to [[spoiler:her tying Koschei up and locking him in the basement for her pleasure (he [[LoveMartyr consents to this]]) while living in the house as Ivan's wife]]. When she ends up [[spoiler:trapped in a dream world, it being a utopia means that the Koschei she's married to is a CompositeCharacter of the real Koschei and Ivan]]. Much of the book is about power struggles between husbands and wives in marriage, and Koschei and Marya's fidelity to one another reflects this.
20th Nov '15 12:18:25 PM Dragon101
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* Pay Cheating Unto Bad Sex - their partner is [[{{Asexuality}} asexual]], impotent or just bad at sex. A form of AcceptableTargets.
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* Pay Cheating Unto Bad Sex - their partner is [[{{Asexuality}} asexual]], impotent or just bad at sex. A form of AcceptableTargets.

But whatever the reason, if they cheat and are portrayed sympathetically then it fits the trope, making it fall more on the "Good" side of GoodAdulteryBadAdultery.
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Exactly how many of these reasons actually ''are'' that sympathetic depends on how much the audience goes along with the writing; in most RealLife cases it would be pretty wretched to find out your partner was cheating on you just because you are boring / normal / not good in bed. But whatever the reason, if they cheat and are portrayed sympathetically then it fits the trope, making it fall more on the "Good" side of GoodAdulteryBadAdultery. GoodAdulteryBadAdultery.
15th Nov '15 6:14:40 AM Dragon101
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* In ''TomorrowNeverDies'' JamesBond sleeps with Paris Carver, an old girlfriend who is now married to the Bond villain Elliot Carver. Paris comes to him to warn him that her husband is onto the fact that he is a spy, and the next morning gives him information even over his protests, despite believing that her media baron husband will find and kill her wherever she goes if she doesn't go back to him. Unknown to her, Carver has already decided to have her killed for not telling him that she knew who Bond was, and when Bond gets back to his hotel room she has already been murdered by one of his assassins.
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* In ''TomorrowNeverDies'' ''Film/TomorrowNeverDies'' JamesBond sleeps with Paris Carver, an old girlfriend who is now married to the Bond villain Elliot Carver. Paris comes to him to warn him that her husband is onto the fact that he is a spy, and the next morning gives him information even over his protests, despite believing that her media baron husband will find and kill her wherever she goes if she doesn't go back to him. Unknown to her, Carver has already decided to have her killed for not telling him that she knew who Bond was, and when Bond gets back to his hotel room she has already been murdered by one of his assassins.

* Similarly in ''TrueLies'', super-spy Harry Tasker thinks his wife is having an affair in part because she thinks he is only a boring computer salesman, a cover ironically he actively cultivates even at home- he might even take ''pride'' in how boring it is. Turns out the truth is a bit more complicated- she ''does'' find him boring, but the guy Harry thinks she is having an "affair" with is a used car salesman who is trying to get in her panties by ''posing'' as a super-spy who wants her to be his fake-wife. In the end, she actually refuses to have sex with him precisely because she is married and loyal to her husband...which comes to bite Harry in the ass when ''he'' recruits her for a fake mission to seduce a French arms dealer (really Harry himself, hidden in the shadows) and she she beats up ''him'' as well not knowing it is her husband. Needless to say, she is not remotely amused when she finds all this out (and even Harry kind of realises that what he is doing is really messed up), but eventually they sort out their differences and she eventually even becomes his partner in the field.
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* Similarly PlayedWith in ''TrueLies'', ''Film/TrueLies'', super-spy Harry Tasker thinks his wife is having an affair in part because she thinks he is only a boring computer salesman, a cover ironically he actively cultivates even at home- he might even take ''pride'' in how boring it is. Turns out the truth is a bit more complicated- she ''does'' find him boring, but the guy Harry thinks she is having an "affair" with is a used car salesman who is trying to get in her panties by ''posing'' as a super-spy who wants her to be his fake-wife. In the end, she actually refuses to have sex with him precisely because she is married and loyal to her husband...which comes to bite Harry in the ass when ''he'' recruits her for a fake mission to seduce a French arms dealer (really Harry himself, hidden in the shadows) and she she beats up ''him'' as well not knowing it is her husband. Needless to say, she is not remotely amused when she finds all this out (and even Harry kind of realises that what he is doing is really messed up), but eventually they sort out their differences and she eventually even becomes his partner in the field.
15th Nov '15 6:04:58 AM Dragon101
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* Similarly in ''TrueLies'', super-spy Harry Tasker thinks his wife is having an affair in part because she thinks he is only a boring computer salesman, a cover ironically he actively cultivates even at home- he might even take ''pride'' in how boring it is. Turns out the truth is a bit more complicated- she ''does'' find him boring, but the guy Harry thinks she is having an "affair" with is a used car salesman who is trying to get in her panties by ''posing'' as a super-spy who wants her to be his fake-wife. In the end, she actually refuses to have sex with him precisely because she is married and loyal to her husband...which comes to bite Harry in the ass when ''he'' recruits her for a fake mission to seduce a French arms dealer (really Harry himself, hidden in the shadows) and she she beats up ''him'' as well not knowing it is her husband. Needless to say, she is not remotely amused when she finds all this out (and even Harry kind of realises that what he is doing is really messed up), but eventually they sort out their differences and she eventually even becomes his partner in the field. ** Should also be noted that Tasker needs to get close to a female villain at one point and the two blatantly flirt with each other, albeit before Harry realises she ''is'' a villain; nonetheless, he never sleeps with her, though she enjoys letting Mrs. Tasker think that he did.
15th Nov '15 4:11:12 AM Dragon101
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* In ''TomorrowNeverDies'' JamesBond sleeps with Paris Carver, an old girlfriend who is now married to the Bond villain Elliot Carver. Paris comes to him to warn him that her husband is onto the fact that he is a spy, and the next morning gives him information even over his protests, despite believing that her media baron husband will find and kill her wherever she goes if she doesn't go back to him. Unknown to her, Carver has already decided to have her killed for not telling him that she knew who Bond was, and when Bond gets back to his hotel room she has already been murdered by one of his assassins.
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