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1st May '16 7:31:09 PM Eievie
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'''Bo:''' Yeah, I, um… I can see how… intimacy could do that.\\
'''Lauren:''' It's in much the same way that a person who's having a heart attack often feels a sharp pain in the left arm? It's the brain's way of redistributing the pain so that it's not all… consented in one area.\\



-->-- ''Series/LostGirl'', "Lachlan's Gambit"

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-->-- ''Series/LostGirl'', "Lachlan's Gambit"
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-->'''Lauren''': It's just that the doctor part of me never shuts off, and I know that I'm merely acting out of transference of grief onto you. Wanting to have sex is a very common response to grief. Biologically speaking, the transference often helps move the pain. Sort of use it as something else. Turn it into something different. Something better…\\
'''Bo''': Yeah. I can see how intimacy would do that.\\
'''Lauren''': It's in much the same way that a person having a heart attack often feels a sharp pain in their left arm? It's the brain's way of redistributing the pain. So it's not all concentrated in one area.\\
'''Bo:''' ''(grinning)'' I love it when you totally geek out.\\
'''Lauren:''' Can I sleep with you?\\

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-->'''Lauren''': It's just that the doctor part of me never shuts off, and I know that I'm merely acting out of transference of grief onto you. Wanting to have sex is a very common response to grief. Biologically speaking, the transference often helps move the pain. Sort of use it as something else. Turn it into something different. Something better…\\
'''Bo''': Yeah. I can see how intimacy would do that.\\
'''Lauren''': It's in much the same way that a person having a heart attack often feels a sharp pain in their left arm? It's the brain's way of redistributing the pain. So it's not all concentrated in one area.\\
'''Bo:''' ''(grinning)'' I love it when you totally geek out.\\
'''Lauren:'''
-->'''Lauren:''' Can I sleep with you?\\
1st May '16 7:17:16 PM Eievie
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->''"You let me violate you, you let me desecrate you \\
You let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you \\
(Help me) I broke apart my insides \\
(Help me) I’ve got no soul to sell \\
(Help me) The only thing that works for me \\
Help me get away from myself"''
-->--'''Music/NineInchNails''', ''"[[Music/TheDownwardSpiral Closer]]"''

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->''"You let me violate you, you let me desecrate you \\
You let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you \\
(Help me) I broke apart my insides \\
(Help me) I’ve got no soul to sell \\
(Help me) The only thing
->'''Lauren:''' It's just that works for the doctor part of me never shuts off, and I know that I’m merely acting out of transference of grief onto you. Wanting to have sex is a very common response to grief. Biologically speaking, the transference often helps move the pain. Sort of use it as something else. Turn it into something different. Something better…\\
'''Bo:''' I love it when you totally geek out.
\\
Help me get away from myself"''
-->--'''Music/NineInchNails''', ''"[[Music/TheDownwardSpiral Closer]]"''
'''Lauren:''' Can I sleep with you?\\
'''Bo:''' Yes.
-->-- ''Series/LostGirl'', "Lachlan's Gambit"
29th Apr '16 9:01:47 PM DrOO7
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* ''Theatre/MissSaigon''. Chris grabs his wife Ellen and kisses her passionately, having just awakened from a nightmare about his lost love Kim. It's not hard to imagine that he's trying to invoke this trope.
28th Apr '16 10:41:26 AM toongrrl1990
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* Happens in Season 6 of ''Series/MadMen'' where after helping Stan recover from [[ItMakesSenseInContext a dart injury]], Peggy receives a kiss from him and gently chides him for coming on to her ("You're lucky I don't like beards"), he then told her the reason he's been taking so much hard drugs: his cousin died in Vietnam, Peggy then voices she experienced loss and that one has to own that loss and not numb it with one-night stands and drugs, from her perspective it just seems he's still being his usual horny self (he gives a longing look at her when she walks away); she then discovers him having sex with the grieving hippie, teenage daughter of a late partner and disappointedly goes home.
6th Apr '16 1:55:52 AM JackG
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* ''Film/{{Spectre}}'': Defied. When Bond and Madeline investigate the hidden clue in [[spoiler:Mr. White]]'s old honeymoon hotel room, she tells him that she won't fall into his arms just because she learned that her father recently killed himself.

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* ''Film/{{Spectre}}'': Defied. When Bond and Madeline investigate the hidden clue in [[spoiler:Mr. White]]'s old honeymoon hotel room, she tells him that she won't fall into his arms just because she learned that her father recently killed himself. [[spoiler:The following night, they have GladToBeAliveSex instead.]]
11th Mar '16 5:07:40 PM Eievie
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--> '''Music/NineInchNails''', ''"[[Music/TheDownwardSpiral Closer]]"''

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--> '''Music/NineInchNails''', -->--'''Music/NineInchNails''', ''"[[Music/TheDownwardSpiral Closer]]"''



Alice and Bob are two characters in a series that are extremely close, maybe they are in love or maybe they are just close friends, but they are happy together....until Bob dies. Or leaves. Or is revealed to be [[TheMole lying the whole time]]. Regardless of the exact circumstances the relationship is over and Alice is emotionally crushed. Does she [[DrowningMySorrows begin to drink heavily]] or [[HeartbreakAndIceCream gorge herself on ice cream]] to wipe away the feelings or [[DeathSeeker seek to end the pain]]? Nope, she goes out and finds somebody to spend the night with, and then finds somebody else the next night, and then finds somebody ''else'' the night after that. These are not emotionally healthy relationships, nor do they count as "relationships" by any definition of the term; they are just a string of one night stands as she tries to cope with the loss.

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Alice and Bob are two characters in a series that are extremely close, maybe they are in love or maybe they are just close friends, but they are happy together....together… until Bob dies. Or leaves. Or is revealed to be [[TheMole lying the whole time]]. Regardless of the exact circumstances the relationship is over and Alice is emotionally crushed. Does she [[DrowningMySorrows begin to drink heavily]] or [[HeartbreakAndIceCream gorge herself on ice cream]] to wipe away the feelings or [[DeathSeeker seek to end the pain]]? Nope, she goes out and finds somebody to spend the night with, and then finds somebody else the next night, and then finds somebody ''else'' the night after that. These are not emotionally healthy relationships, nor do they count as "relationships" by any definition of the term; they are just a string of one night stands as she tries to cope with the loss.



In RealLife, this is a common way of dealing with emotional trauma and PTSD. Needless to say, it can be a bad idea (though at the very least, it's better than drugs or alcohol or the like...maybe). That said, it's a somewhat commonplace reaction to '''[[DepopulationBomb mass]]''' [[DepopulationBomb casualty disasters]], perhaps as evolution's way to encourage repopulation. Now that that's out of the way...

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In RealLife, this is a common way of dealing with emotional trauma and PTSD. Needless to say, it can be a bad idea (though at the very least, it's better than drugs or alcohol or the like...like… maybe). That said, it's a somewhat commonplace reaction to '''[[DepopulationBomb mass]]''' [[DepopulationBomb casualty disasters]], perhaps as evolution's way to encourage repopulation. Now that that's out of the way...
way…



* ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'': Akeno comes to Issei with this intent in the seventh volume, due to having a lot on her plate to deal with, emotionally speaking. Issei is at first overjoyed at his good luck... but turns her down, saying that while he wants to have sex with her very much, he wants that occasion to be a happy one, not when Akeno is obviously feeling sad.

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* ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'': Akeno comes to Issei with this intent in the seventh volume, due to having a lot on her plate to deal with, emotionally speaking. Issei is at first overjoyed at his good luck... luck… but turns her down, saying that while he wants to have sex with her very much, he wants that occasion to be a happy one, not when Akeno is obviously feeling sad.



* ComicBook/NormanOsborn has sex with Gwen Stacy - yes, ''[[ComicBook/TheNightGwenStacyDied that]]'' Gwen Stacy - soon after his son Harry is hospitalized for OD'ing on LSD. Gwen herself was traumatized by her father's death and Peter's [[TheMasqueradeWillKillYourDatingLife apparent aloofness]].

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* ComicBook/NormanOsborn has sex with Gwen Stacy - yes, Stacy--yes, ''[[ComicBook/TheNightGwenStacyDied that]]'' Gwen Stacy - soon Stacy--soon after his son Harry is hospitalized for OD'ing on LSD. Gwen herself was traumatized by her father's death and Peter's [[TheMasqueradeWillKillYourDatingLife apparent aloofness]].



* ''Film/CabinFever'': "It's like being on a plane, when you know it's gonna crash - everyone around you is screaming, yelling 'We're going down! We're going down!' And all you really wanna do is grab the person next to you and fuck the shit out of them, 'cuz you know you're gonna be dead soon, anyway."

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* ''Film/CabinFever'': "It's like being on a plane, when you know it's gonna crash - everyone crash--everyone around you is screaming, yelling 'We're going down! We're going down!' And all you really wanna do is grab the person next to you and fuck the shit out of them, 'cuz you know you're gonna be dead soon, anyway."



* In ''[[Literature/XWingSeries Wedge's Gamble]]'', Erisi Dlarit tries to sleep with Corran Horn on this pretense; to ease his angst. He refrains and [[IdiotBall wanders an enemy-controlled city without watching where he's going]] instead. Probably just as well - rather than getting him captured or killed this leads to [[ShaggySearchTechnique unexpected discoveries]]. [[spoiler: Anyway, Erisi is a traitor to the cause.]]

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* In ''[[Literature/XWingSeries Wedge's Gamble]]'', Erisi Dlarit tries to sleep with Corran Horn on this pretense; to ease his angst. He refrains and [[IdiotBall wanders an enemy-controlled city without watching where he's going]] instead. Probably just as well - rather well--rather than getting him captured or killed this leads to [[ShaggySearchTechnique unexpected discoveries]]. [[spoiler: Anyway, Erisi is a traitor to the cause.]]



** King Robb Stark sleeps with Jeyne Westerling after finding out that his little brothers have supposedly died. The next day he marries her to protect her honor. As his hand has already been [[ArrangedMarriage promised as part of a political alliance]], this doesn't end well for anyone.

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** King Robb Stark sleeps with Jeyne Westerling after finding out that his little brothers have supposedly died.been murdered. The next day he marries her to protect her honor. As his hand has already been [[ArrangedMarriage promised as part of a political alliance]], this doesn't end well for anyone.



-->'''Lauren''': It's just that the doctor part of me never shuts off, and I know that I’m merely acting out of transference of grief onto you. Wanting to have sex is a very common response to grief. Biologically speaking, the transference often helps move the pain. Sort of use it as something else. Turn it into something different. Something better...\\

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-->'''Lauren''': It's just that the doctor part of me never shuts off, and I know that I’m I'm merely acting out of transference of grief onto you. Wanting to have sex is a very common response to grief. Biologically speaking, the transference often helps move the pain. Sort of use it as something else. Turn it into something different. Something better...\\better…\\



'''Lauren''': It’s in much the same way that a person having a heart attack often feels a sharp pain in their left arm? It's the brain's way of redistributing the pain. So it's not all concentrated in one area.\\

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'''Lauren''': It’s It's in much the same way that a person having a heart attack often feels a sharp pain in their left arm? It's the brain's way of redistributing the pain. So it's not all concentrated in one area.\\



'''Bo:''' ...Yeah exactly.

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'''Bo:''' ...Yeah '''Bo:''' …yeah exactly.



* Referenced and averted in ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'', after Dora breaks up with Marten...

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* Referenced and averted in ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'', after Dora breaks up with Marten... Marten…



* In ''WebComic/SequentialArt'', [[http://www.collectedcurios.com/sequentialart.php?s=782 Hillary, sobbing, says she's not asking for much, just some symptathy -- cut to the two characters in bed.]]

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* In ''WebComic/SequentialArt'', [[http://www.collectedcurios.com/sequentialart.php?s=782 Hillary, sobbing, says she's not asking for much, just some symptathy -- cut symptathy--cut to the two characters in bed.]]



* In ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive,'' [[JerkWithAHeartOfGold Davan]]'s old friend Scotty kills himself when his longtime off-and-on girlfriend, Donna, [[SpurnedIntoSuicide breaks up with him]]. Donna feels guilty and thinks everyone else blames her, Davan was also mourning and assures her that it wasn't her fault, and, well... When they meet again a few years later, Davan winds up having to take a DaddyDNATest.

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* In ''Webcomic/SomethingPositive,'' [[JerkWithAHeartOfGold Davan]]'s old friend Scotty kills himself when his longtime off-and-on girlfriend, Donna, [[SpurnedIntoSuicide breaks up with him]]. Donna feels guilty and thinks everyone else blames her, Davan was also mourning and assures her that it wasn't her fault, and, well... well… When they meet again a few years later, Davan winds up having to take a DaddyDNATest.
3rd Mar '16 12:09:17 PM Nightmask
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** Nothing ambiguous about the first time, since he's clearly wide-awake in bed with her in that strip and thinking about what happened, the drugging came later when she realized she could use him and regained her dubious emotional equilibrium and returned to type.
21st Jan '16 8:05:44 PM Adept
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* [[spoiler:Kurumi]] from ''HaouAiren'' engages once in this with [[spoiler: her BastardBoyfriend's NumberTwo, Fuuron.]] Doubles as IntimatePsychotherapy since it takes place right after she explains her most recent troubles to him.

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* [[spoiler:Kurumi]] from ''HaouAiren'' ''Manga/HaouAiren'' engages once in this with [[spoiler: her BastardBoyfriend's NumberTwo, Fuuron.]] Doubles as IntimatePsychotherapy since it takes place right after she explains her most recent troubles to him.
11th Jan '16 5:24:18 AM manofwarb
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* In VideoGame/MassEffect2 the option to have a one night stand with [[AxCrazy Jack]] can unlock for a male Shepard right after [[ThatOneLevel Horizon]] with some careful timing. Why is this considered solace? Because you could potentially get dumped by [[FirstGirlWins Ashley]] on Horizon, probably even in Jack's presence.
10th Dec '15 4:43:22 PM sorako
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* Similarly subverted like the ''Anime/CodeGeass'' example above, Ryo from the ''{{Manga/FAKE}}'' series tells Dee he can "go ahead and do it" to him while in a depressed state. Dee answers with an ArmorPiercingSlap with a GetAholdOfYourselfMan out of anger, as [[ChivalrousPervert he]] is AboveTheInfluence and would never take advantage of [[HeroicBSOD someone who's head isn't on straight and vulnerable.]]

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* Similarly subverted like the ''Anime/CodeGeass'' example above, Ryo from the ''{{Manga/FAKE}}'' series tells Dee he can "go ahead and do it" to him while in a depressed state. Dee answers with an ArmorPiercingSlap with a GetAholdOfYourselfMan GetAHoldOfYourselfMan out of anger, as [[ChivalrousPervert he]] is AboveTheInfluence and would never take advantage of [[HeroicBSOD someone who's head isn't on straight and vulnerable.]]
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