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16th Jun '17 12:55:13 AM JoeMerl
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* On ''WesternAnimation/{{Daria}},'' one of the last episodes revolves around [[TheSnarkKnight Daria]] wondering if she should have sex with [[TallDarkAndSnarky Tom]]; she ultimately can't go through with it, finding the thought of [[HatesBeingTouched so much physical contact]] to be too overwhelming. Tom, for the record, is fine with this; Daria was the one who worried that not having sex made their relationship deficient. ** Interestingly, it's strongly {{Implied}} that [[LovableLibby Quinn]] has this too. She's dates every attractive or popular boy possible, but is never seen physically affectionate with them, and in one episode claims she won't slow-dance until the fifth date. She was also extremely freaked out when she thought that Daria and Tom actually had slept together.

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* On ''WesternAnimation/{{Daria}},'' one of the last episodes revolves around [[TheSnarkKnight Daria]] wondering if she should have sex with [[TallDarkAndSnarky Tom]]; she ultimately can't go through with it, finding the thought of [[HatesBeingTouched so much physical contact]] to be too overwhelming. Tom, for the record, is fine with this; Daria was the one who worried that not having sex made their relationship deficient.
** Interestingly, it's strongly {{Implied}} that [[LovableLibby Quinn]] has this too. She's dates every attractive or popular boy possible, but is never seen physically affectionate with them, and in one episode claims she won't slow-dance until the fifth date. She was also extremely freaked out when she thought that Daria and Tom actually had slept together.
16th Jun '17 12:54:55 AM JoeMerl
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* Although Quinn from ''WesternAnimation/{{Daria}}'' dates dozens of guys throughout the series' run, she surprisingly suffers from this fear.

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* Although Quinn from ''WesternAnimation/{{Daria}}'' On ''WesternAnimation/{{Daria}},'' one of the last episodes revolves around [[TheSnarkKnight Daria]] wondering if she should have sex with [[TallDarkAndSnarky Tom]]; she ultimately can't go through with it, finding the thought of [[HatesBeingTouched so much physical contact]] to be too overwhelming. Tom, for the record, is fine with this; Daria was the one who worried that not having sex made their relationship deficient. ** Interestingly, it's strongly {{Implied}} that [[LovableLibby Quinn]] has this too. She's dates dozens of guys throughout every attractive or popular boy possible, but is never seen physically affectionate with them, and in one episode claims she won't slow-dance until the series' run, fifth date. She was also extremely freaked out when she surprisingly suffers from this fear.thought that Daria and Tom actually had slept together.
28th May '17 4:28:13 PM WillBGood
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** For context, in the episode it is revealed that [[spoiler: when Liz was young, she was riding her rollerskates around the house, when she needed to use the restroom. She tried to use the restroom with her skates still on, but lost her balance and her mother found her on the floor with her underwear down covered in a {{Music/TomJones}} poster. Assuming [[ADateWithRosiePalms the worst]], her mother tore down all the posters of the men she liked in her room, leading Liz to proclaim that "Sex makes the people go away!"]]

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** For context, in the episode it is revealed that [[spoiler: when Liz was young, she was riding her rollerskates around the house, when she needed to use the restroom. She tried to use the restroom with her skates still on, but lost her balance and her mother found her on the floor with her underwear down covered in a {{Music/TomJones}} Music/TomJones poster. Assuming [[ADateWithRosiePalms the worst]], her mother tore down all the posters of the men she liked in her room, leading Liz to proclaim that "Sex makes the people go away!"]]
27th Apr '17 10:36:40 PM Golondrina
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13th Feb '17 3:15:31 PM RobTan
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* Dougal in ''Series/FatherTed'' is visibly uncomfortable around women except for Mrs Doyle or older nuns, and shows genuine fear when he believes a strange woman may have entered the house. It's implied that a fear of women was his primary motivation for entering the priesthood, as he's shown to be uninterested in the tenets of Catholicism, and effectively an atheist in his personal beliefs.
9th Dec '16 1:52:46 AM ectostar
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* Gay/Bi people who were brought up with the belief that same-gender attraction is wrong, can end up like this.

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* Gay/Bi people who were brought up with the belief that same-gender attraction is wrong, can end up like this.this do to [[InternalizedCategorism internalized homophobia]].
9th Dec '16 1:48:26 AM ectostar
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[[caption-width-right:350:In extreme cases, it doesn't take much]].

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* Gay/Bi people who were brought up with the belief that same-gender attraction is wrong, can end up like this.
9th Dec '16 1:28:24 AM ectostar
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[[caption-width-right:350:In extreme cases, it doesn't take much.]]

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* In Fumi Yoshinaga's ''Manga/GerardEtJacques'': Jacques is a virgin at heart, a wannabe CelibateHero, and deeply believes sexuality is, oh dear, such a sin. Unfortunately the UST between him and his, ahem, experienced master, keeps piling until Jacques succumbs to [[ADateWithRosiePalms a DIY solution]], and gets a huge moral hangover for it. The whole issue is played for light drama and fun, but in a darker work it could have fueled worlds of angst.
* While not touched upon in the anime, Firo of ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}'' was [[spoiler: once kidnapped by a pervert [[DudeLooksLikeALady who mistook him for a young girl]] and nearly [[AttemptedRape sexually assaulted]] him.]] The experience has left him with a very bad attitude towards men who make unsolicited advances on women, and has made him scared of displaying any sort of sexual intimacy (even something as innocent as ''hand-holding'') for fear that it might be unwanted and troubling to the other party. It does, perhaps, help explain why he [[spoiler:engaged in innocent cohabitation with the same woman for ''fifty years'' before she [[WhatIsThisThingYouCallLove figured out human emotions enough to fall in love with him]], then stayed in a SexlessMarriage for another twenty and counting.]]

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* In Fumi Yoshinaga's ''Manga/GerardEtJacques'': ''Gerard & Jacques'': Jacques is a virgin at heart, a wannabe CelibateHero, and deeply believes sexuality is, oh dear, such a sin. Unfortunately the UST between him and his, ahem, experienced master, keeps piling until Jacques succumbs to [[ADateWithRosiePalms a DIY solution]], and gets a huge moral hangover for it. The whole issue is played for light drama and fun, but in a darker work it could have fueled worlds of angst.
* While not touched upon in the anime, Firo of ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}'' was [[spoiler: once kidnapped by a pervert [[DudeLooksLikeALady who mistook him for a young girl]] and nearly [[AttemptedRape sexually assaulted]] him.]] him]]. The experience has left him with a very bad attitude towards men who make unsolicited advances on women, and has made him scared of displaying any sort of sexual intimacy (even something as innocent as ''hand-holding'') for fear that it might be unwanted and troubling to the other party. It does, perhaps, help explain why he [[spoiler:engaged in innocent cohabitation with the same woman for ''fifty years'' before she [[WhatIsThisThingYouCallLove figured out human emotions enough to fall in love with him]], then stayed in a SexlessMarriage for another twenty and counting.]]counting]].




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* In the ''Manga/DeathNote'' CrackFic ''FanFic/ACharmedLife'' Light finds the very idea of sex to be disgusting and terrifying [[spoiler:until Ryuk helps him through it.]]
* In the ''Film/{{Maleficent}}'' fanfic ''Fanfic/YourServantMistress'', Maleficent suffers from this. Understandably, as the incidence that makes her go dark in the film is changed into the thing [[RapeIsASpecialKindOfEvil that it was symbolic for in the first place.]] As this is an all-human story wherein she and Diaval are in a BDSM - relationship, this makes things very complicated.

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* In the ''Manga/DeathNote'' CrackFic ''FanFic/ACharmedLife'' Light finds the very idea of sex to be disgusting and terrifying [[spoiler:until Ryuk helps him through it.]]
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* In the ''Film/{{Maleficent}}'' fanfic ''Fanfic/YourServantMistress'', Maleficent suffers from this. Understandably, as the incidence that makes her go dark in the film is changed into the thing [[RapeIsASpecialKindOfEvil that it was symbolic for in the first place.]] place]]. As this is an all-human story wherein she and Diaval are in a BDSM - relationship, this makes things very complicated.




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* Creator/IsaacAsimov's ''Literature/TheNakedSun'' features Solaria, a world where people practically never have physical proximity to another, and almost all of them are scared of sex as a result. [[spoiler:This also turns out to be a plot point.]]

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* Creator/IsaacAsimov's ''Literature/TheNakedSun'' features Solaria, a world where people practically never have physical proximity to another, and almost all of them are scared of sex as a result. [[spoiler:This also turns out to be a plot point.]]point]].




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* Laura Dickens from ''Series/TheSandbaggers'' -- according to the staff psychiatrist, it results from a combination of a prudish upbringing with a completely disastrous marriage that only lasted a week. [[spoiler:She's in the process of working through it so she and Neal can build a relationship when she's killed in the season 1 finale.]]

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* Laura Dickens from ''Series/TheSandbaggers'' -- according to the staff psychiatrist, it results from a combination of a prudish upbringing with a completely disastrous marriage that only lasted a week. [[spoiler:She's in the process of working through it so she and Neal can build a relationship when she's killed in the season 1 finale.]]finale]].



** Mac describes herself as "frozen from the waist down" since a traumatic episode. She and her boyfriend had planned a special night to lose their virginity together. Just before the event, she takes a shower while he waits in bed for her. When she comes out of the shower, he is gone. [[spoiler:It turns out that he is a serial killer and rapist, and he left to kill Veronica because she had figured out he was the culprit.]] He takes her clothes, too, so she can't follow him, resulting in Veronica finding Mac crying and wrapped in a bedsheet.
** Mac's boyfriend [[spoiler:Beaver]] wouldn't do anything more than hold hands anyway, because of [[spoiler: his molestation as a child.]] However, she subsequently seems to get over this fairly easily, with little on-screen explanation.
* Series/{{Dexter}} deliberately dates a woman with this issue because it suits him down to the ground - he wants [[TheBeard a relationship for passing as normal]] and grows to enjoy the emotional connection, but they are both effectively {{asexual}} at first and that's just the way he likes it. While Dexter does have a sex drive, he's afraid of himself (he's a serial killer, and sometimes get aroused by thoughts of murder and such) and he's also afraid that his girlfriend will see through his facade if they get intimate. He's also faintly repulsed by intimacy (in the novel, deeply repulsed, and also pretty much despises Rita, but they made the TV character much more relatable), and every previous sexual encounter has resulted in his ability to fake normality being totally blown out of the water, since he's emotionally abnormal and spends most of his life going through the motions. [[LateArrivalSpoiler This does not work very well for sex.]] She eventually starts to get over her trauma and get her sex drive back, and with some work they eventually manage to build a functioning sex life together because he does get inadvertently attached to her...and then his emotional life gets a shake-up courtesy of the Season One antagonist and his mind games. In the books it's implied the only reason he and Rita can have a sex life is because she's so damaged from her abusive ex-husband, she can't tell that he's not "doing it right".

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** Mac describes herself as "frozen from the waist down" since a traumatic episode. She and her boyfriend had planned a special night to lose their virginity together. Just before the event, she takes a shower while he waits in bed for her. When she comes out of the shower, he is gone. [[spoiler:It turns out that he is a serial killer and rapist, and he left to kill Veronica because she had figured out he was the culprit.]] culprit]]. He takes her clothes, too, so she can't follow him, resulting in Veronica finding Mac crying and wrapped in a bedsheet.
** Mac's boyfriend [[spoiler:Beaver]] wouldn't do anything more than hold hands anyway, because of [[spoiler: his molestation as a child.]] child]]. However, she subsequently seems to get over this fairly easily, with little on-screen explanation.
* Series/{{Dexter}} deliberately dates a woman with this issue because it suits him down to the ground - he wants [[TheBeard a relationship for passing as normal]] and grows to enjoy the emotional connection, but they are both effectively {{asexual}} at first and that's just the way he likes it. While Dexter does have a sex drive, he's afraid of himself (he's a serial killer, and sometimes get aroused by thoughts of murder and such) and he's also afraid that his girlfriend will see through his facade if they get intimate. He's also faintly repulsed by intimacy (in the novel, deeply repulsed, and also pretty much despises Rita, but they made the TV character much more relatable), and every previous sexual encounter has resulted in his ability to fake normality being totally blown out of the water, since he's emotionally abnormal and spends most of his life going through the motions. [[LateArrivalSpoiler This does not work very well for sex.]] sex]]. She eventually starts to get over her trauma and get her sex drive back, and with some work they eventually manage to build a functioning sex life together because he does get inadvertently attached to her...and then his emotional life gets a shake-up courtesy of the Season One antagonist and his mind games. In the books it's implied the only reason he and Rita can have a sex life is because she's so damaged from her abusive ex-husband, she can't tell that he's not "doing it right".



** A less extreme example wold be Kurt in the second season. As of ''Sexy'', the thought of sex makes him incredibly uncomfortable, preferring to focus purely on romance. Played with in that he didn't appear to have much of a problem with it during season one-- but then, after [[WhamEpisode "Never Been Kissed"...]]. It is also important to note that at his age, it is ''perfectly normal'' not to feel like you are ready for sex. Everyone develops at a different pace. (As of "The First Time" he's gotten over it.)

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** A less extreme example wold be Kurt in the second season. As of ''Sexy'', the thought of sex makes him incredibly uncomfortable, preferring to focus purely on romance. Played with in that he didn't appear to have much of a problem with it during season one-- but then, after [[WhamEpisode "Never Been Kissed"...]].Kissed"]].... It is also important to note that at his age, it is ''perfectly normal'' not to feel like you are ready for sex. Everyone develops at a different pace. (As of "The First Time" he's gotten over it.)




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* Ruby of ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns'' works through this problem. She has problems with sexuality, and is initially [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/turn_around prone to paralysis.]] However, after she's been exposed to a few sexual scenes, it becomes very clear that that she finds {{guy on guy|IsHot}} ''very'' hot, and she moves from total paralysis to [[SelectiveObliviousness deep denial]], while [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/very_very_wrong finding more excuses to look.]] Eventually, when her boyfriend (she thinks) proposes sex, [[CharacterDevelopment she decides to go for it -- nervously, but not unwillingly.]]

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* Ruby of ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns'' works through this problem. She has problems with sexuality, and is initially [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/turn_around prone to paralysis.]] paralysis]]. However, after she's been exposed to a few sexual scenes, it becomes very clear that that she finds {{guy on guy|IsHot}} ''very'' hot, and she moves from total paralysis to [[SelectiveObliviousness deep denial]], while [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/very_very_wrong finding more excuses to look.]] look]]. Eventually, when her boyfriend (she thinks) proposes sex, [[CharacterDevelopment she decides to go for it -- nervously, but not unwillingly.]]unwillingly]].



* In ''Webcomic/{{Harbourmaster}}'', Governor Tal Monteblanc is deeply uncomfortable with sexuality and physical intimacy, to the point that [[http://www.waywardmartian.com/harbourmaster1/002-007.html he can't even offer a perfectly chaste comforting hug.]]

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24th Aug '16 3:23:16 AM Spindriver
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* Ruby of ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns'' has problems with sexuality, and is initially [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/turn_around prone to paralysis.]] However, after she's been exposed to a few sexual scenes, it becomes very clear that that she finds {{guy on guy|IsHot}} ''very'' hot, and she moves from total paralysis to [[SelectiveObliviousness deep denial]], while [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/very_very_wrong finding more excuses to look.]] Eventually, when her boyfriend (she thinks) proposes sex, she decides to go for it -- nervously, but not unwillingly.

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* Ruby of ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns'' works through this problem. She has problems with sexuality, and is initially [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/turn_around prone to paralysis.]] However, after she's been exposed to a few sexual scenes, it becomes very clear that that she finds {{guy on guy|IsHot}} ''very'' hot, and she moves from total paralysis to [[SelectiveObliviousness deep denial]], while [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/very_very_wrong finding more excuses to look.]] Eventually, when her boyfriend (she thinks) proposes sex, [[CharacterDevelopment she decides to go for it -- nervously, but not unwillingly.]]
22nd Aug '16 11:39:56 PM Dravencour
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* The Music/PetShopBoys song "It's A Sin" is about the way a domineering Catholic upbringing will instil this in you.

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