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20th Feb '18 2:29:00 AM DoctorNemesis
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Sometimes this is a pretty logical trope -- a parking ticket isn't nice, but a bereavement is on a totally different level of grief altogether. At other times, though, the viewer might note that the character with the "lesser" gripe has every right to be downhearted -- for example, a character whose illness is serious, but not as serious as someone else's -- and may accuse the supporting cast of having NoSympathy when they fail to acknowledge this. [[AppealToWorseProblems Falsely setting up problems in competition]] seems to imply that only the biggest problem can be dealt with, whatever the feasibility issues or nature of the lesser one. At its worst, a character who consistently has severe problems but is always one-upped by different people who once or a few times have a worse problem, leaving their problems totally ignored, could [[BewareTheNiceOnes suddenly explode in rage over time from being subjected to this far too often]]. Even an IronButtMonkey has their limits. And, of course, even a minor problem can be made easier to cope with or slightly more tolerable if you know that the people around you have some sympathy; the character who got the parking ticket might not be demanding that everyone drop what they're doing and focus on them to the exclusion of the character dying from cancer, they might just be looking for a few kind words, which doesn't seem entirely unreasonable.

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Sometimes this is a pretty logical trope -- a parking ticket isn't nice, but a bereavement is on a totally different level of grief altogether. At other times, though, the viewer might note that the character with the "lesser" gripe has every right to be downhearted -- for example, a character whose illness is serious, but not as serious as someone else's -- and may accuse the supporting cast of having NoSympathy when they fail to acknowledge this. [[AppealToWorseProblems Falsely setting up problems in competition]] seems to imply that only the biggest problem can be dealt with, whatever the feasibility issues or nature of the lesser one. At its worst, a character who consistently has severe problems but is always one-upped by different people who once or a few times have a worse problem, leaving their problems totally ignored, could [[BewareTheNiceOnes suddenly explode in rage over time from being subjected to this far too often]]. Even an IronButtMonkey has their limits. And, of course, even a minor problem can be made easier to cope with or slightly more tolerable if you know that the people around you have some sympathy; the character who got the parking ticket might not be demanding that everyone drop what they're doing and focus on them to the exclusion of the character dying from cancer, cancer (although [[ItsAllAboutMe they might be, of course]]), they might just be looking for a few kind words, which doesn't seem entirely unreasonable.
29th Jan '18 10:45:40 AM DaibhidC
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--->'''Carla''': Oh, Katie ... ''Heard it!'' Me, dead mom. JD, dead dad. Eliot, emotionally abusive parents. Dr Cox, emptionally ''and physically'' abusive ''dead'' parents, who he may have killed. No-one's sure.

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--->'''Carla''': Oh, Katie ... ''Heard it!'' Me, dead mom. JD, dead dad. Eliot, emotionally abusive parents. Dr Cox, emptionally emotionally ''and physically'' abusive ''dead'' parents, who he may have killed. No-one's sure.
29th Jan '18 10:44:42 AM DaibhidC
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* In one episode of ''Jeremy Hardy Speaks to the Nation'', he says that sometimes he worries that comforting the bereaved can come across like this: if your mother is suffering dementia and you tell someone whose mother died suddenly "At least she was with you right up to the end", you're kind of saying their situation isn't as bad as yours.
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29th Jan '18 10:41:18 AM DaibhidC
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** In the episode "My Saving Grace", Katie unloads a FreudianExcuse on Carla to justify her attitude, explaining her dad died, her mother was an alcoholic and she's always had to do everything for herself. Carla's response:
--->'''Carla''': Oh, Katie ... ''Heard it!'' Me, dead mom. JD, dead dad. Eliot, emotionally abusive parents. Dr Cox, emptionally ''and physically'' abusive ''dead'' parents, who he may have killed. No-one's sure.
25th Jan '18 5:51:12 PM treehugger0369
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* [[TalkAboutTheWeather Complaining about the weather]] tends to turn into this if you're doing so on the Internet.

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* [[TalkAboutTheWeather Complaining about the weather]] tends to turn into this if you're doing so on the Internet. The most common form of this is complaining about it being cold out during winter when you live relatively close to the equator, getting this reaction from people living closer to a pole. Or vice versa for it being hot during summer.
20th Jan '18 8:22:05 AM meanmetalmario
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* Parodied in ''Webcomic/SaturdayMorningBreakfastCereal'' [[http://smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=2314#comic #2314]], where a chain of "Stop being unhappy! There are people who have it worse than you!" goes through everybody or so until it reaches the least fortunate man on Earth, who has no arms, is inside a barrel marked for nuclear waste, has one eye and a pipe sticking out his head, and is on fire. He's delighted to find he'll "automatically win every pissing contest."

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* Parodied in ''Webcomic/SaturdayMorningBreakfastCereal'' [[http://smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=2314#comic #2314]], where a chain of "Stop being unhappy! There are people who have it worse than you!" goes through everybody or so ''everybody in the world'' until it reaches the world's least fortunate person: a man on Earth, who has with no arms, one eye, one tooth, a metal pipe impaling him through the head, [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking and a unibrow]], who is inside standing in a barrel marked for of nuclear waste, has one eye and a pipe sticking out his head, waste and is on fire. He's He is delighted to find out that he'll "automatically win every pissing contest."contest".
18th Jan '18 11:25:34 AM pisoprano
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* With [[https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-hope-preventing-suicide/201705/ring-theory-helps-us-bring-comfort-in Ring Theory]], the idea is that when multiple individuals are directly or indirectly affected by some trauma, you let the person closest to the suffering dump on you and you can dump on those who are further away from it. So you ''can'' win Misery Poker, you just have to play it with the right people.
2nd Jan '18 1:22:11 PM WillBGood
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* One story by Creator/EphraimKishon satirized this.

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* %%* One story by Creator/EphraimKishon satirized this.
2nd Jan '18 7:32:01 AM DoctorNemesis
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* Played for laughs in an episode of ''Series/{{Frasier}}'' where Frasier gets punched in the face by a man who is later murdered. Subsequently, every time he does something that others view as a WhatTheHellHero moment, he tries to wriggle out of it by gravely pointing out that he is still suffering the psychological after-effects of "being punched in the face by a man now dead". Incredibly, despite the other characters having far more significant problems going on in the same episode, it ''works every time''.
26th Dec '17 9:43:54 PM CharlesPhipps
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* In ''Film/BladeRunner2049'', it's shown with the racism toward Replicants we see with the underclass and K. While K is treated like garbage by his colleagues, he's still a police officer and one of the employed who can afford to purchase virtual girlfriends and live in a decent-looking apartment. This is in direct contrast to the people living outside his apartment in the halls and in the junkyard's enormous sweatshop, who are left to die by society. It should be noted the super-destitute still hate Replicants and find this as reason to hate them more.
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