History Main / HonorRelatedAbuse

28th Nov '16 11:06:15 PM VanHohenheimOfXerxes
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* One episode of the historical miniseries ''[[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kennedys_(miniseries) The Kennedys]]'' depicts Rosemary Kennedy's {{lobotomy}}, which ''her own father'' arranged just because she was a "problem child." The ''really'' disturbing part is that [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosemary_Kennedy#Lobotomy this actually happened]].

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* One episode of the historical miniseries ''[[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kennedys_(miniseries) The Kennedys]]'' depicts Rosemary Kennedy's {{lobotomy}}, which ''her own father'' her father arranged just because she was a "problem child." The ''really'' disturbing part is that [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosemary_Kennedy#Lobotomy this actually happened]].
5th Sep '16 6:41:24 AM Luigifan
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The trope includes, but is not limited to, so-called "honour killings" wherein the victims' families actually go so far as to, you guessed it, ''murder'' their wayward family children/family members. When this happens in states where that's illegal (surprise surprise) and frowned upon, they usually try to cover it up. If caught, [[BlueAndOrangeMorality they may well speak out against the 'injustice' of being tried and convicted for the crimes of murder and the obstruction of justice.]] Of course, this attitude gives Judges and/or juries a good enough reason to throw the book at them in sentencing with stiff prison terms to send the right message to their community, often complete with denouncements from the bench at what dishonorable scum they are. Furthermore, there is often an authority figure from the community and/or religion who is volunteering to explain things and serve as a more moderate example while [[StopBeingStereotypical telling the heroes how the offenders are doctrinaire fanatics who are making their community look bad]].

While this kind of violence is usually directed against female relatives (inclusive of targeting the people they court) it does go both ways, especially when it comes to homosexuality.

Honor-Related Abuse is bit odd because... well, it sort of goes against the natural instinct to, you know, ''love'' and be loving to your family. It has in any case given us some hilariously psychotic statements along the lines of [[HonorBeforeReason 'we had to lock them in the cellar for twenty years/beat/rape/kill them because it was for their own good/we loved them']]. While it's fairly typical of pre-modern societies (like pre-19th/20th century Europe), the [[BlueAndOrangeMorality value systems]] that make Honor-Related Abuse look like a jolly good idea seem a bit... ''dated'' now that we believe that ''nobody'' has the right to do certain things to other people, like imprison/assault/rape/murder them. This is particularly jarring when it comes to the whole 'rape victim = DefiledForever' thing. To people with modern sensibilities it's all just a teensy bit [[ValuesDissonance repulsive]].

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The trope includes, but is not limited to, so-called "honour killings" wherein the victims' families actually go so far as to, you guessed it, ''murder'' their wayward family children/family members. When this happens in states where that's illegal (surprise surprise) and frowned upon, they usually try to cover it up. If caught, [[BlueAndOrangeMorality they may well speak out against the 'injustice' of being tried and convicted for the crimes of murder and the obstruction of justice.]] Of course, this attitude gives Judges and/or juries a good enough reason to throw the book at them in sentencing with stiff prison terms to send the right message to their community, often complete with denouncements from the bench at what dishonorable '''''dishonorable''''' scum they are. Furthermore, there is often an authority figure from the community and/or religion who is volunteering to explain things and serve as a more moderate example while [[StopBeingStereotypical telling the heroes how the offenders are doctrinaire fanatics who are making their community look bad]].

While this kind of violence is usually directed against female relatives (inclusive of targeting the people they court) court), it does go both ways, especially when it comes to homosexuality.

Honor-Related Abuse is bit odd because... well, it sort of goes against the natural instinct to, you know, ''love'' and be loving to your family. It has has, in any case case, given us some hilariously psychotic statements along the lines of [[HonorBeforeReason 'we had to lock them in the cellar for twenty years/beat/rape/kill them because it was for their own good/we loved them']]. While it's fairly typical of pre-modern societies (like pre-19th/20th century Europe), the [[BlueAndOrangeMorality value systems]] that make Honor-Related Abuse look like a jolly good idea seem a bit... ''dated'' now that we believe that ''nobody'' has the right to do certain things to other people, like imprison/assault/rape/murder them. This is particularly jarring when it comes to the whole 'rape victim = DefiledForever' thing. To people with modern sensibilities sensibilities, it's all just a teensy bit [[ValuesDissonance repulsive]].



* In ''Film/TheStoningOfSorayaM'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends his wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her [[spoiler:and force Soraya's father and children to participate in the stoning.]]

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* In ''Film/TheStoningOfSorayaM'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends his wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her [[spoiler:and force Soraya's father and children to participate in the stoning.]]stoning]].



* ''Film/WhenDarknessFalls'': Leyla's family does that to her sister Nina, when they think that she had sexual contact with several men. Her father punches her and almost the whole family tries to force her to suicide. This ends in [[spoiler:the family killing Nina by staging her suicide on a high speed street in Germany.]]


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* ''Film/WhenDarknessFalls'': Leyla's family does that to her sister Nina, when they think that she had sexual contact with several men. Her father punches her and almost the whole family tries to force her to suicide. This ends in [[spoiler:the family killing Nina by staging her suicide on a high speed street in Germany.]]

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* In ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'', Tara's family is like this. They abuse her emotionally [[spoiler:and lie to her to make her [[InternalizedCategorism hate herself]], fooling her to believe that she is less than human]]. When she breaks free to make a life of her own, they start threatening to move on to physical abuse, and would most likely have made good on their threats if it wasn't for almost the entire cast closing ranks around her and telling them that they would have to [[GoThroughMe go through them]] to get to her. [[MyFriendsAndZoidberg Except Spike.]] [[spoiler: Spike ''does'' help, in his own unique fashion: [[WouldHitAGirl he hits Tara in the face]]. Since it triggers his MoralityChip, thus proving she's entirely human, it does help her... by hurting her. And him.]]

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* In ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'', Tara's family is like this. They abuse her emotionally [[spoiler:and lie to her to make her [[InternalizedCategorism hate herself]], fooling her to believe that she is less than human]]. When she breaks free to make a life of her own, they start threatening to move on to physical abuse, and would most likely have made good on their threats if it wasn't for almost the entire cast closing ranks around her and telling them that they would have to [[GoThroughMe go through them]] to get to her. [[MyFriendsAndZoidberg Except Spike.]] [[spoiler: Spike [[spoiler:Spike ''does'' help, in his own unique fashion: [[WouldHitAGirl he hits Tara in the face]]. Since it triggers his MoralityChip, thus proving she's entirely human, it does help her... by hurting her. And him.]]



* Subverted in ''Series/{{Farscape}}'': up until the episode "Mental As Anything," D'Argo's DarkAndTroubledPast involved his wife, Lo'Laan, being murdered by her brother, Macton- apparently for [[FantasticRacism marrying a non-Sebacean.]] However, when D'Argo finally catches up with Macton, it turns out that the "honour-killing" was accidental: the two of them had been arguing, and Lo'Laan had drawn a knife on Macton- [[DamnYouMuscleMemory only for him to instinctively deflect it back on her.]] Macton's ''real'' crime was making it look as though D'Argo had done it in a fit of [[UnstoppableRage Hyper Rage]].

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* Subverted in ''Series/{{Farscape}}'': up until the episode "Mental As Anything," D'Argo's DarkAndTroubledPast involved his wife, Lo'Laan, being murdered by her brother, Macton- Macton -- apparently for [[FantasticRacism marrying a non-Sebacean.]] However, when D'Argo finally catches up with Macton, it turns out that the "honour-killing" was accidental: the two of them had been arguing, and Lo'Laan had drawn a knife on Macton- Macton -- [[DamnYouMuscleMemory only for him to instinctively deflect it back on her.]] Macton's ''real'' crime was making it look as though D'Argo had done it in a fit of [[UnstoppableRage Hyper Rage]].



* A storyline on the SoapOpera ''Series/PortCharles'' had a young Middle Eastern woman being terrorized by her brother. She had fled her country after being raped and her family responded by sending her brother to kill her in order to restore family honor. This being a SoapOpera, a well-meaning friend quickly [[CitizenshipMarriage married her]] to keep her from being deported back to her country as well as to pacify her family. Unfortunately, it didn't work--the brother continued stalking her and discovered that the marriage was fake (the man already had a girlfriend) and eventually did attempt to kill her, though he was unsuccessful.

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* A storyline on the SoapOpera ''Series/PortCharles'' had a young Middle Eastern woman being terrorized by her brother. She had fled her country after being raped and her family responded by sending her brother to kill her in order to restore family honor. This being a SoapOpera, a well-meaning friend quickly [[CitizenshipMarriage married her]] to keep her from being deported back to her country as well as to pacify her family. Unfortunately, it didn't work--the work -- the brother continued stalking her and discovered that the marriage was fake (the man already had a girlfriend) and eventually did attempt to kill her, though he was unsuccessful.



* The protagonist of ''Theatre/TitusAndronicus''. After his daughter Lavinia gets raped, he restores his honor by murdering the rapists -- and her! Sure, she was depicted as a severe case of DefiledForever, but if the murder had been done in a gentler way it could have been considered a MercyKilling to put her out of her misery, considering what else the rapists did to her -- but the way he did it (at least in the movie version, and that one stays true to the original manuscript) was definitely a part of his own personal revenge.

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* The protagonist of ''Theatre/TitusAndronicus''. After his daughter Lavinia gets raped, he restores his honor by murdering the rapists -- and her! Sure, she was depicted as a severe case of DefiledForever, but if the murder had been done in a gentler way way, it could have been considered a MercyKilling to put her out of her misery, considering what else the rapists did to her -- but the way he did it (at least in the movie version, and that one stays true to the original manuscript) was definitely a part of his own personal revenge.



* Melusine (an anthropomorphic dolphin) in ''Webcomic/{{Concession}}'' was murdered by her brother-in-law for getting impregnated by a land-dweller. Said land-dweller reacted rather badly, willfully causing a disaster that destroyed her community's entire seaside city, while she came back as an insane, vengeful ghost (who in retrospect, may have influenced the former).

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* Melusine (an anthropomorphic dolphin) in ''Webcomic/{{Concession}}'' was murdered by her brother-in-law for getting impregnated by a land-dweller. Said land-dweller reacted rather badly, willfully causing a disaster that destroyed her community's entire seaside city, while she came back as an insane, vengeful ghost (who (who, in retrospect, may have influenced the former).



* Rare male example: Prince Zuko from ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' experienced a ''ton'' of this from his father, Fire Lord Ozai. After Zuko spoke out against a plan to [[WeHaveReserves use new military recruits as cannon fodder]], Ozai torched his face and banished him on a WildGooseChase to hunt down the Avatar (who hadn't been seen in a century). After the Avatar showed up and Zuko ''still'' didn't capture him, Ozai sent his daughter Azula to capture her brother. Eventually, [[spoiler:Zuko was welcomed back after supposedly killing the Avatar, but then did a HeelFaceTurn and spectacularly [[CallingTheOldManOut called his father out]] - to which Ozai responded by [[OffingTheOffspring trying to electrocute him]]. During the GrandFinale, Ozai is away fighting Aang, so Azula takes up the mantle of Honor-Related Abuse and tries to electrocute him ''again'' - and she would have succeeded if Katara hadn't stepped in to save him.]]

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* Rare male example: Prince Zuko from ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' experienced a ''ton'' of this from his father, Fire Lord Ozai. After Zuko spoke out against a plan to [[WeHaveReserves use new military recruits as cannon fodder]], Ozai torched his face and banished him on a WildGooseChase to hunt down the Avatar (who hadn't been seen in a century). After the Avatar showed up and Zuko ''still'' didn't capture him, Ozai sent his daughter Azula to capture her brother. Eventually, [[spoiler:Zuko was welcomed back after supposedly killing the Avatar, but then did a HeelFaceTurn and spectacularly [[CallingTheOldManOut called his father out]] - -- to which Ozai responded by [[OffingTheOffspring trying to electrocute him]]. During the GrandFinale, Ozai is away fighting Aang, so Azula takes up the mantle of Honor-Related Abuse and tries to electrocute him ''again'' - -- and she would have succeeded if Katara hadn't stepped in to save him.]]
19th Aug '16 12:14:55 AM rmctagg09
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A subtrope of MurderInTheFamily.
22nd Jul '16 2:37:57 PM DrOO7
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** In a later episode, ADA CAsey Novak is brutally attacked by the brother of a young Muslim woman who was raped, blaming ''Casey'' for why everyone now knows that his sister isn't a virgin anymore and therefore unsuitable for marriage, and feeling that by attacking Casey, he has restored his family's reputation.

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** In a later episode, ADA CAsey Casey Novak is brutally attacked by the brother of a young Muslim woman who was raped, blaming ''Casey'' for why everyone now knows that his sister isn't a virgin anymore and therefore unsuitable for marriage, and feeling that by attacking Casey, he has restored his family's reputation.
22nd Jul '16 2:37:29 PM DrOO7
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* In the film ''When We Leave'', a young woman leaves her abusive husband in Turkey to return to her family in Germany. Although basically sympathetic to the abuse she has endured, they are ashamed of her for leaving her husband and supposedly bringing shame onto her family -- their friends shun them and her younger sister's fiance nearly ends their relationship until the father offers the family a large sum of money. When the young woman flees the family apartment after realizing that they are planning to kidnap her son and send him back to his father, they shun her outright and her brother begins stalking and harassing her, culminating in him trying to stab her (after her younger brother can't bring himself to shoot her) [[spoiler:and accidentally killing her son, who she was holding in her arms at the time. Ironically, despite having no remorse about trying to kill his own sister, he is horrified at having killed his nephew]].

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* In the German film ''When We Leave'', a young woman leaves her abusive husband in Turkey to return to her family in Germany. Although basically sympathetic to the abuse she has endured, they are ashamed of her for leaving her husband and supposedly bringing shame onto her family -- their friends shun them and her younger sister's fiance nearly ends their relationship until the father offers the other family a large sum of money. When the young woman flees the family apartment after realizing that they are planning to kidnap her son and send him back to his father, they shun her outright and her brother begins stalking and harassing her, culminating in him trying to stab her (after her younger brother can't bring himself to shoot her) [[spoiler:and accidentally killing her son, who she was holding in her arms at the time. Ironically, despite having no remorse about trying to kill his own sister, he is horrified at having killed his nephew]].



** In a later episode, ADA CAsey Novak is brutally attacked by the brother of a young Muslim woman who was raped, blaming ''Casey'' for why everyone now knows that his sister isn't a virgin anymore and therefore unsuitable for marriage, and feeling that by attacking Casey, he has restored his family's reputation.



* A storyline on the SoapOpera ''PortCharles'' had a young Middle Eastern woman being terrorized by her brother. She had fled her country after being raped and her family responded by sending her brother to kill her in order to restore family honor. This being a SoapOpera, a well-meaning friend quickly married her to keep her from being deported back to her country as well as to pacify her family. Unfortunately, it didn't work--the brother continued stalking her and discovered that the marriage was fake (the man already had a girlfriend) and eventually did attempt to kill her, though he was unsuccessful.

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* A storyline on the SoapOpera ''PortCharles'' ''Series/PortCharles'' had a young Middle Eastern woman being terrorized by her brother. She had fled her country after being raped and her family responded by sending her brother to kill her in order to restore family honor. This being a SoapOpera, a well-meaning friend quickly [[CitizenshipMarriage married her her]] to keep her from being deported back to her country as well as to pacify her family. Unfortunately, it didn't work--the brother continued stalking her and discovered that the marriage was fake (the man already had a girlfriend) and eventually did attempt to kill her, though he was unsuccessful.
1st Jul '16 12:53:28 PM Nopperabo
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* In ''TabletopGame/WerewolfTheApocalypse'', some Garou tribes carry out honor violence on kinfolk who mate with unapproved partners.
** As the royal leaders of the Garou Nation, the Silver Fangs are obsessed with maintaining the "purity" of their bloodlines. According to the revised Silver Fang tribebook, the Silver Fangs historically killed or sterilized kinfolk who mated with partners outside of the tribe.
** According to ''Kinfolk'', some hardline Wendigo septs murder kinfolk who marry outside of the tribe.

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19th Jun '16 12:33:53 PM ScotieRw
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* Parts of Literature/TheBible command honor killing for alleged sexual misconduct. In Leviticus 21:9 of Old Testament, a Levite's daughter is to be subjected to honor killing if she becomes a prostitute. Deuteronomy 22:13-21 commands that a female is to be stoned to death if she is suspected of not being a virgin on her wedding night. [[OlderThanTheyThink Even before those laws were written down]], in Genesis 38:24-30, Judah calls for Tamar to be burned to death for becoming pregnant out of wedlock through prostitution. [[spoiler: In a ShockingSwerve, he spares her life, because she reveals that ''he'' is the father, and she only impersonated a shrine prostitute because he was trying to weasel his way out of a levirate marriage. He even goes on to say that in doing what she did (thus fulfilling her duty to carry on his family lineage), she is more righteous than he is.]]
** The Bible contains laws specifically against fornication (aimed at both sexes) and against prostitution, so the laws aren't strictly family-honor related as much as being part of the general law. Deuteronomy 21:18-21 details how a stubborn son, who drinks, is rebellious, and otherwise dishonors and disobeys his family should be dealt with (by stoning) if his family can't control him.

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* Parts of Literature/TheBible command honor killing for alleged sexual misconduct. In Leviticus 21:9 of Old Testament, a Levite's daughter is to be subjected to honor killing if she becomes a prostitute. Deuteronomy 22:13-21 commands that a female is to be stoned to death if she is suspected of not being a virgin on her wedding night. [[OlderThanTheyThink Even before those laws were written down]], in Genesis 38:24-30, Judah calls for Tamar to be burned to death for becoming pregnant out of wedlock through prostitution. [[spoiler: In a ShockingSwerve, he spares her life, because she reveals that ''he'' is the father, and she only impersonated a shrine prostitute because he was trying to weasel his way out of a levirate marriage. He even goes on to say that in doing what she did (thus fulfilling her duty to carry on his family lineage), she is more righteous than he is.]]
** The Bible contains laws specifically against fornication (aimed at both sexes) and against prostitution, so the laws aren't strictly family-honor related as much as being part of the general law. Deuteronomy 21:18-21 details how a stubborn son, who drinks, is rebellious, and otherwise dishonors and disobeys his family should be dealt with (by stoning) if his family can't control him.

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7th Jun '16 9:34:14 PM Medinoc
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* Melusine (an anthropomorphic dolphin) in ''Webcomic/{{Concession}}'' was murdered by her brother-in-law for getting impregnated by a land-dweller. Prompting the father to destroy an entire city and her to come back as an insane ghost.

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* Melusine (an anthropomorphic dolphin) in ''Webcomic/{{Concession}}'' was murdered by her brother-in-law for getting impregnated by a land-dweller. Prompting the father to destroy an Said land-dweller reacted rather badly, willfully causing a disaster that destroyed her community's entire city and her to come seaside city, while she came back as an insane ghost.
insane, vengeful ghost (who in retrospect, may have influenced the former).
1st Jun '16 3:19:17 AM Morgenthaler
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* The Swedish book ''Mordet på Fadime'' (The murder of Fadime) revolves around this, especially the case that made "honor killings" a well known concept in Sweden.

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* The Swedish book ''Mordet på Fadime'' (The murder of Fadime) revolves around this, especially the case that made "honor killings" a well known concept in Sweden.



** ''Literature/MatteoFalcone'' by Prosper Mérimée has exactly the same plot.

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* ChildBallad 65, "Lady Maisry" is a Border ballad about a young Scottish girl who falls in love with an Englishman and becomes pregnant by him after refusing to marry any of the Scottish lords her family approved of. In response, her family has her burned alive.

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5th May '16 1:18:19 PM talltalltree
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* In an episode of ''Series/SilentWitness'', a Vietnamese woman was subjected to this after her arranged marriage fell through because the groom discovered she wasn't a virgin.
* The TV movie ''Murdered By My Father'', in which the titular event happens when a young girl gets a boyfriend and tries to reject the arranged marriage her father had planned for her. The father is also subjected to this trope, since the groom's family have him beaten up when they find out.
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