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19th May '16 11:07:49 AM TheOneWhoTropes
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* ''OneTreeHill'': Brooke's parents are pretty bad with this. They don't really care what she does (they didn't even address that she's been ''arrested''), they just throw credit cards at her to keep her busy, and then when they lose all of their money they're completely fine just leaving her in Tree Hill with a woman who is basically a stranger while they move across the country.

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* ''OneTreeHill'': ''Series/OneTreeHill'': Brooke's parents are pretty bad with this. They don't really care what she does (they didn't even address that she's been ''arrested''), they just throw credit cards at her to keep her busy, and then when they lose all of their money they're completely fine just leaving her in Tree Hill with a woman who is basically a stranger while they move across the country.
7th May '16 1:57:43 PM StrixObscuro
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* ''ComicBook/{{Runaways}}'':
** After the death of the Pride, Karolina ended up in a foster home run by stoners.
** Poor Klara suffered an extreme case of this - her highly-religious parents didn't want a daughter who could command plant life, and thus married her off at age ''eleven'' to a god-fearing alcoholic who vowed to bring her under control. Said alcoholic ended up physically and sexually abusing her and sending her off to work in unsafe factories to earn booze money for him.



* ''PointCounterPoint'' features Elinor's mother, Mrs Bidlake, who has retreated so far into her ideal world of art and fantasy that she refuses to acknowledge 95% or what goes on around her. She only got involved in Elinor's upbringing when there was a possibility of her artistic taste being affected.[[labelnote:Note:]] Ironically, her insistence that Elinor only see the best that culture had to offer made Elinor cynical about all high culture.[[/labelnote]]

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* ''PointCounterPoint'' ''Literature/PointCounterPoint'' features Elinor's mother, Mrs Bidlake, who has retreated so far into her ideal world of art and fantasy that she refuses to acknowledge 95% or what goes on around her. She only got involved in Elinor's upbringing when there was a possibility of her artistic taste being affected.[[labelnote:Note:]] Ironically, her insistence that Elinor only see the best that culture had to offer made Elinor cynical about all high culture.[[/labelnote]]



* The parents in ''SwallowsAndAmazons'' are also rather like this. They have no problem with the idea of sending their seven-to-twelve-year-old children off in small sailboats to camp on islands for days at a time. This, to an extent, is also ValuesDissonance.

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* The parents in ''SwallowsAndAmazons'' ''Literature/SwallowsAndAmazons'' are also rather like this. They have no problem with the idea of sending their seven-to-twelve-year-old children off in small sailboats to camp on islands for days at a time. This, to an extent, is also ValuesDissonance.



* In ''Literature/TheSlap'', Rosie's hands off approach to raising Hugo has made him into a vicious little brat even by the standards of four year olds. The titular Slap was triggered by Hugo attacking another child with a cricket bat while his parents did nothing, and that child's father stepping in to "reprimand" him.
* Important to TheReveal of Laura Kasischke's ''Mind of Winter.'' Holly and Eric adopted Tatiana from a Siberian orphanage. Both parents pride themselves on how much freedom they give their daughter. However, that freedom also includes freedom from doctors, dentists, and vaccinations. [[spoiler: As a result, nobody ever diagnoses Tatiana's serious heart defect, even though both a nurse at the orphanage and a next-door neighbor warn Holly that something is wrong.]]

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* In ''Literature/TheSlap'', Rosie's hands off hands-off approach to raising Hugo has made him into a vicious little brat even by the standards of four year olds.four-year-olds. The titular Slap was triggered by Hugo attacking another child with a cricket bat while his parents did nothing, and that child's father stepping in to "reprimand" him.
* Important to TheReveal of Laura Kasischke's ''Mind of Winter.'' Holly and Eric adopted Tatiana from a Siberian orphanage. Both parents pride themselves on how much freedom they give their daughter. However, that freedom also includes freedom from doctors, dentists, and vaccinations. [[spoiler: As [[spoiler:As a result, nobody ever diagnoses Tatiana's serious heart defect, even though both a nurse at the orphanage and a next-door neighbor warn Holly that something is wrong.]]]]
* In ''[[Literature/TheOldKingdom Sabriel]]'', Abhorsen loves his daughter Sabriel dearly, but due to the nature of his job hunting down the Dead, he's had to send her to grow up in Ancelstierre, so that she sees him only a few times a year (when she started having her period, she had to summon up the ghost of her dead mother to give her TheTalk, because Abhorsen wasn't available.) After he goes missing, necessitating her travelling into the Old Kingdom and taking over his job, she frequently resents how his absence from her life has left her naive of things that she really should have known.



* Joy Lass of ''DeadLikeMe'' survived a mother like this and grew to resent her for not being there.
** Her burning desire to ''not'' be this sort of parent has led to a daughter who resents her and another who is unresponsive and turned inside herself (especially after her sister's death). Joy, for her part, doesn't seem to understand why her daughters don't see that she's so much of a better parent than their grandmother that the only logical response is enduring praise and unending gratefulness.

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* Joy Lass of ''DeadLikeMe'' ''Series/DeadLikeMe'' survived a mother like this and grew to resent her for not being there.
** Her burning desire to ''not'' be this sort of parent has led to a daughter who resents her and another who is unresponsive and turned inside herself (especially after her sister's death). death.) Joy, for her part, doesn't seem to understand why her daughters don't see that she's so much of a better parent than their grandmother that the only logical response is enduring praise and unending gratefulness.
7th May '16 1:20:48 PM nombretomado
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* In ''GilmoreGirls'', Jess's upbringing is a case of this and ParentalAbandonment: his mother had him as a teenager and his father ran out on them when he was a baby. Her inability to deal with him as a teenager is a major reason she shipped him off to her brother Luke.

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* In ''GilmoreGirls'', ''Series/GilmoreGirls'', Jess's upbringing is a case of this and ParentalAbandonment: his mother had him as a teenager and his father ran out on them when he was a baby. Her inability to deal with him as a teenager is a major reason she shipped him off to her brother Luke.
2nd May '16 6:28:27 PM MsChibi
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See also AdultsAreUseless, DisappearedDad, MissingMom, [[WhenYouComingHomeDad When You Coming Home, Dad?]], FreeRangeChildren, MinorLivingAlone, ParentalAbandonment, and ParentalNeglect. Might be a consequence of a parent who is AllergicToRoutine.

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See also AdultsAreUseless, DisappearedDad, MissingMom, [[WhenYouComingHomeDad When You Coming Home, Dad?]], FreeRangeChildren, MinorLivingAlone, ParentalAbandonment, and ParentalNeglect. Might be a consequence of a parent who is AllergicToRoutine.AllergicToRoutine or DesperatelySeekingAPurposeInLife.
2nd May '16 6:26:49 PM MsChibi
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See also AdultsAreUseless, DisappearedDad, MissingMom, [[WhenYouComingHomeDad When You Coming Home, Dad?]], FreeRangeChildren, MinorLivingAlone, ParentalAbandonment, and ParentalNeglect.

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See also AdultsAreUseless, DisappearedDad, MissingMom, [[WhenYouComingHomeDad When You Coming Home, Dad?]], FreeRangeChildren, MinorLivingAlone, ParentalAbandonment, and ParentalNeglect. Might be a consequence of a parent who is AllergicToRoutine.
20th Apr '16 6:16:21 AM Doug86
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* This is what GreenArrow amounted to when he took in Roy Harper. While they spent plenty of time fighting bad guys together, out of costume Ollie barely had much of a presence around Roy and was somewhat oblivious to what was going on in Roy's life, including the crippling sense of abandonment and loneliness building up inside him that led to his heroin addiction.

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* This is what GreenArrow ComicBook/GreenArrow amounted to when he took in Roy Harper. While they spent plenty of time fighting bad guys together, out of costume Ollie barely had much of a presence around Roy and was somewhat oblivious to what was going on in Roy's life, including the crippling sense of abandonment and loneliness building up inside him that led to his heroin addiction.



* WesternAnimation/SouthPark has plenty of this. Kenny and Cartman in particular considering that their parents are crack heads (and in Cartman's case a whore) and thus really don't seem to heed much mind to the antics their kids get into. And strangely that seems less dangerous than Randy's involvement in his son's life.

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* WesternAnimation/SouthPark ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'' has plenty of this. Kenny and Cartman in particular considering that their parents are crack heads (and in Cartman's case a whore) and thus really don't seem to heed much mind to the antics their kids get into. And strangely that seems less dangerous than Randy's involvement in his son's life.
19th Apr '16 4:59:42 AM erforce
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* Dr. Henry Jones Sr. deliberately adopted this parenting style in reaction against his own strict upbringing and is astonished when Henry Jr. (aka [[Franchise/IndianaJones Indiana Jones]]) makes it clear he did NOT appreciate it.

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* In ''Film/IndianaJonesAndTheLastCrusade'', Dr. Henry Jones Sr. tells his son that he deliberately adopted this parenting style in reaction against his own strict upbringing and is astonished when Henry Jr. (aka [[Franchise/IndianaJones Indiana Jones]]) makes it clear he did NOT appreciate it.
19th Mar '16 7:30:07 AM Hossmeister
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23rd Feb '16 8:00:55 PM Katsuhagi
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See also AdultsAreUseless, DisappearedDad, MissingMom, [[WhenYouComingHomeDad When You Coming Home, Dad?]], FreeRangeChildren, ParentalAbandonment, and ParentalNeglect.

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See also AdultsAreUseless, DisappearedDad, MissingMom, [[WhenYouComingHomeDad When You Coming Home, Dad?]], FreeRangeChildren, MinorLivingAlone, ParentalAbandonment, and ParentalNeglect.
17th Jan '16 8:48:44 PM Katsuhagi
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* Masaomi Kida's parents in ''{{Anime/Durarara}}'' apparently take this view and seem entirely unconcerned about their son going out late at night, dropping out of high school [[spoiler:and before that, becoming a gang leader]] to the point that his friend Mikado pulls a LampshadeHanging on it. Ironically of his three friends Masaomi is the only one whose parents are actually around, as Mikado's parents rent an apartment for him closer to his school and Anri's are dead, but you'd never know it by how he acts.

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* Masaomi Kida's parents in ''{{Anime/Durarara}}'' apparently take this view and seem entirely unconcerned about their son going out late at night, dropping out of high school [[spoiler:and (and before that, becoming that [[spoiler:becoming a gang leader]] leader]]) to the point that his friend Mikado pulls a LampshadeHanging on it. Ironically of his three friends Masaomi is the only one whose parents are actually around, as Mikado's parents rent an apartment for him closer to his school and Anri's are dead, but you'd never know it by how he acts.
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