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1st Jul '16 7:56:43 AM Someoneman
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See also TheParentTrap.

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16th Apr '16 5:52:47 AM Zephyr7
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* In ''Film/AntMan'', while Cassie loves her stepfather Paxton, it's clear that she prefers and favours her biological father, Scott.
26th Nov '15 3:11:27 PM Morgenthaler
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* The father in ''Series/UnhappilyEverAfter'' reluctantly does this. After they divorce in the first scene of the first episode he moves into a bachelor apartment; then eventually moves into the basement of his former home; and finally back upstairs with his wife. Then his wife is killed off so they could give more screen time to TheHotChick.

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* The father in ''Series/UnhappilyEverAfter'' reluctantly does this. After they divorce in the first scene of the first episode he moves into a bachelor apartment; then eventually moves into the basement of his former home; and finally back upstairs with his wife. Then his wife is killed off so they could give more screen time to TheHotChick.Film/TheHotChick.
14th Nov '15 12:43:58 AM nombretomado
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* ''Film/MrsDoubtfire'' has the example of RobinWilliams's character cross-dressing as a nanny to spend time with his kids, while meanwhile Pierce Brosnan's character romances the ex. It leads to his ex-wife gaining full custody and forbidding him any contact with his kids without supervision. DoubleSubverted when the ex-wife allows the dad to visit the kids anyway and their dad takes the cross-dressing professional with a motivational childrens' show.

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* ''Film/MrsDoubtfire'' has the example of RobinWilliams's Creator/RobinWilliams's character cross-dressing as a nanny to spend time with his kids, while meanwhile Pierce Brosnan's character romances the ex. It leads to his ex-wife gaining full custody and forbidding him any contact with his kids without supervision. DoubleSubverted when the ex-wife allows the dad to visit the kids anyway and their dad takes the cross-dressing professional with a motivational childrens' show.
30th Jul '15 1:44:12 PM ChaoticNovelist
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For whatever reason, it's always implied it's the dad whose flaw(s) led to the divorce; While the ex may be snarky, resentful or exasperated in their interactions, neither the lead nor usually the children will act as if she was the problem (she's the LoveInterest after all). Still, just as often this makes us sympathise with the father more, if she comes off as seriously insensitive or unforgiving in the course of this.

Of course, she will have either remarried, gotten a fiancé or is seriously dating someone else. Since she has custody of the kids, the First Dad will be worried the Step Dad will win them over because he has more time with them ''and'' he's handsomer, more successful, more empathetic and an all around better dad (though a painfully dull and "safe" rebound guy is also possible). The kids, usually boy and girl pair, will have one of four relationships with the First Dad and Step Dad: passive aggressiveness, wary distance, civil cohabitation, or a loving and respectful rapport. For variety and contrast, they usually each have a different relationship with the dad and step dad.

As the plot progresses, he'll win back his ex wife, the Step Dad [[DerailingLoveInterests will be revealed]] to be a JerkAss and [[CleaningUpRomanticLooseEnds get killed off]] or sent packing, he'll completely patch up his relationship with his kids and they'll all reunite and live HappilyEverAfter. TheEnd.

Except, of course, when it's [[SubvertedTrope subverted.]] The First Dad might not get back together with the ex and only patch up his relationship with the kids, or the family may decide the First Dad not only hasn't changed but is a jerk for manipulating them into getting back together.

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For whatever reason, it's always implied it's the dad whose flaw(s) led to the divorce; While the ex may be snarky, resentful or exasperated in their interactions, neither the lead nor usually the children will act as if she was the problem (she's the LoveInterest after all).problem. Still, just as often this makes us sympathise with the father more, if she comes off as seriously insensitive or unforgiving in the course of this.

Of course, she She will have either remarried, gotten a fiancé or is seriously dating someone else. Since she has custody of the kids, the First Dad will be worried the Step Dad will win them over because he has more time with them ''and'' he's handsomer, more successful, more empathetic and an all around better dad (though a painfully dull and "safe" rebound guy is also possible). The kids, usually boy and girl pair, will have one of four relationships with the First Dad and Step Dad: passive aggressiveness, wary distance, civil cohabitation, or a loving and respectful rapport. For variety and contrast, they usually each have a different relationship with the dad and step dad.

As the plot progresses, he'll win back his ex wife, the Step Dad [[DerailingLoveInterests will be revealed]] to be a JerkAss and [[CleaningUpRomanticLooseEnds get killed off]] or sent packing, he'll completely patch up his relationship with his kids and they'll all reunite and live HappilyEverAfter. TheEnd.

Except, of course, when it's [[SubvertedTrope subverted.]] The First Dad might not get back together with the ex and only patch up his relationship with the kids, or the family may decide the First Dad not only hasn't changed but is a jerk for manipulating them into getting back together.
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1st Apr '15 11:41:07 AM nighttrainfm
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* Parodied, along with RomanticFalseLead, in [[http://www.shortpacked.com/index.php?id=1974 this]] ''Webcomic/{{Shortpacked}}'' strip (with specific reference to Creator/JamesMarsden).
25th Jan '15 7:17:13 AM sareforholdingthings
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* ''Webcomic/BiterComics'': A father attempts to win his son's love... by sabotaging his relationship with his new stepdad through [[http://www.bitercomics.com/comic/claus-effect/ detailed lies of his evildoing]].
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13th Aug '14 11:40:54 PM grapesandmilk
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* The Belgian film ''[[http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0116581/ Le huitieme jour]]'' involved this as a major part of the plot.
* ''Film/MrsDoubtfire'' has the example of RobinWilliams's character cross-dressing as a nanny to spend time with his kids, while meanwhile Pierce Brosnan's character romances the ex. It leads to his ex-wife gaining full custody and forbidding him any contact with his kids. DoubleSubverted when the ex-wife allows the dad to visit the kids anyway and their dad takes the cross-dressing professional with a motivational childrens' show.

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* The Belgian film ''[[http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0116581/ Le huitieme huitième jour]]'' involved this as a major part of the plot.
* ''Film/MrsDoubtfire'' has the example of RobinWilliams's character cross-dressing as a nanny to spend time with his kids, while meanwhile Pierce Brosnan's character romances the ex. It leads to his ex-wife gaining full custody and forbidding him any contact with his kids.kids without supervision. DoubleSubverted when the ex-wife allows the dad to visit the kids anyway and their dad takes the cross-dressing professional with a motivational childrens' show.
26th Jul '14 12:35:10 PM Morgenthaler
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* ''[[TwentyTwelve 2012]]'' mixes it up a bit. Step Dad Gordon is a NiceGuy, saves their lives twice, and has honestly won the love and respect of his kids. Of course, [[spoiler: the ex-wife loves him imperfectly, not as much as her old husband who she has a flame for, but enough to not leave him. And of course he dies at the end in what seemingly is a last-moment attack by the plot to keep this trope enforced BY ANY MEANS.]]

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* ''[[TwentyTwelve 2012]]'' ''Film/TwoThousandTwelve'' mixes it up a bit. Step Dad Gordon is a NiceGuy, saves their lives twice, and has honestly won the love and respect of his kids. Of course, [[spoiler: the ex-wife loves him imperfectly, not as much as her old husband who she has a flame for, but enough to not leave him. And of course he dies at the end in what seemingly is a last-moment attack by the plot to keep this trope enforced BY ANY MEANS.]]



* ''NightAtTheMuseum'' has something similar. Ben Stiller's character main motivation is proving himself a worthy father to his son, and to himself, but he and his ex-wife have an almost sibling like relationship, with absolutely no UST and Paul Rudd, the step-dad, is shown as goofy but dedicated and never actively tries to get between Stiller and his son. Which makes him all the bigger threat.
* ''TheRoyalTenenbaums'' has Royal try this to return in good graces with his family, including getting rid of his ex-wife's suitor by pretending to have stomach cancer. The Step Dad eventually sees through his ruse and they kick him out. They do eventually forgive him though.

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* ''NightAtTheMuseum'' ''Film/NightAtTheMuseum'' has something similar. Ben Stiller's character main motivation is proving himself a worthy father to his son, and to himself, but he and his ex-wife have an almost sibling like relationship, with absolutely no UST and Paul Rudd, the step-dad, is shown as goofy but dedicated and never actively tries to get between Stiller and his son. Which makes him all the bigger threat.
* ''TheRoyalTenenbaums'' ''Film/TheRoyalTenenbaums'' has Royal try this to return in good graces with his family, including getting rid of his ex-wife's suitor by pretending to have stomach cancer. The Step Dad eventually sees through his ruse and they kick him out. They do eventually forgive him though.



* ''{{Weatherman}}'' with Nicolas Cage has this set up... which [[spoiler:[[StatusQuoIsGod remains largely unchanged]] by movie's end, save for a slight repair in his relationship with his kids as he works out some personal issues. ]]
* ''TheFullMonty'' has Gaz trying to raise the money so that he can keep seeing his son on weekends. He goes about this by... unconventional means, which backfires [[spoiler: when the police see him and his friends practicing their strip tease in front of the kid and arrest him]].
* ''OBrotherWhereArtThou'' has the wife of the protagonist (a convicted felon) attempt to marry a man with an honest living, whose worst fault appears to be that of being boring. Interestingly, the step dad [[spoiler: is in the Ku Klux Klan, and gets swept out of the way because of it. The protagonist and wife eventually get sort of back together.]]
* PlayedWith in ''TheSantaClause:'' it begins with Charlie clearly preferring his stepdad, Neil, to his workaholic father Scott, but Scott becoming SantaClaus helps to bring the two together. This leads to a rift between Charlie and Neil in the latter half of the movie--Neil is convinced Scott is delusional--but ultimately Charlie's relationship with both father figures is repaired. There's never really any hint that Scott and his ex-wife, Laura, might get back together.

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* ''{{Weatherman}}'' ''Film/{{Weatherman}}'' with Nicolas Cage has this set up... which [[spoiler:[[StatusQuoIsGod remains largely unchanged]] by movie's end, save for a slight repair in his relationship with his kids as he works out some personal issues. ]]
* ''TheFullMonty'' ''Film/TheFullMonty'' has Gaz trying to raise the money so that he can keep seeing his son on weekends. He goes about this by... unconventional means, which backfires [[spoiler: when the police see him and his friends practicing their strip tease in front of the kid and arrest him]].
* ''OBrotherWhereArtThou'' ''Film/OBrotherWhereArtThou'' has the wife of the protagonist (a convicted felon) attempt to marry a man with an honest living, whose worst fault appears to be that of being boring. Interestingly, the step dad [[spoiler: is in the Ku Klux Klan, and gets swept out of the way because of it. The protagonist and wife eventually get sort of back together.]]
* PlayedWith in ''TheSantaClause:'' ''Film/TheSantaClause:'' it begins with Charlie clearly preferring his stepdad, Neil, to his workaholic father Scott, but Scott becoming SantaClaus helps to bring the two together. This leads to a rift between Charlie and Neil in the latter half of the movie--Neil is convinced Scott is delusional--but ultimately Charlie's relationship with both father figures is repaired. There's never really any hint that Scott and his ex-wife, Laura, might get back together.



* In ''{{Taken}}'', Bryan's wife divorced him because of his time-consuming job as a special forces commander. She has remarried a millionaire and has custody of his daughter, Kimmy. Their relationship is summed up at Kimmy's birthday party, when Bryan gives her a karaoke machine, but her stepdad gives her a horse. The trope is ultimately subverted in that even though he regains the respect of his daughter and ex-wife after rescuing his daughter from kidnappers, they don't reunite as a family. [[spoiler:Until the sequel.]]

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* In ''{{Taken}}'', ''Film/{{Taken}}'', Bryan's wife divorced him because of his time-consuming job as a special forces commander. She has remarried a millionaire and has custody of his daughter, Kimmy. Their relationship is summed up at Kimmy's birthday party, when Bryan gives her a karaoke machine, but her stepdad gives her a horse. The trope is ultimately subverted in that even though he regains the respect of his daughter and ex-wife after rescuing his daughter from kidnappers, they don't reunite as a family. [[spoiler:Until the sequel.]]



* ''Domestic Disturbance'' is good example of this trope. The stepfather seems to be a successful businessman, but the son soon discovers that he is actually [[spoiler: a killer]]. [[spoiler: In the end, the first father (John Travolta) wins.]]

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* ''Domestic Disturbance'' ''Film/DomesticDisturbance'' is good example of this trope. The stepfather seems to be a successful businessman, but the son soon discovers that he is actually [[spoiler: a killer]]. [[spoiler: In the end, the first father (John Travolta) wins.]]



* Ray Drecker, Thomas Jane's character in ''{{Hung}}'', essentially follows this trope.
* The father in ''UnhappilyEverAfter'' reluctantly does this. After they divorce in the first scene of the first episode he moves into a bachelor apartment; then eventually moves into the basement of his former home; and finally back upstairs with his wife. Then his wife is killed off so they could give more screen time to TheHotChick.

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* Ray Drecker, Thomas Jane's character in ''{{Hung}}'', ''Series/{{Hung}}'', essentially follows this trope.
* The father in ''UnhappilyEverAfter'' ''Series/UnhappilyEverAfter'' reluctantly does this. After they divorce in the first scene of the first episode he moves into a bachelor apartment; then eventually moves into the basement of his former home; and finally back upstairs with his wife. Then his wife is killed off so they could give more screen time to TheHotChick.



* Earl Hickey of ''MyNameIsEarl'' is a divorced father (his first wife left him for a mutual friend while he was doped up on morphine at the hospital). His children, however, are still young enough not to resent him for leaving, and even refer to him as "old daddy," and he finds out that [[spoiler: Dodge actually is his biological child.]]
* Jimmy [=McNulty=] of ''TheWire'' is the first dad. He doesn't exactly win in the getting-back-together sense, but otherwise the trope applies.

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* Earl Hickey of ''MyNameIsEarl'' ''Series/MyNameIsEarl'' is a divorced father (his first wife left him for a mutual friend while he was doped up on morphine at the hospital). His children, however, are still young enough not to resent him for leaving, and even refer to him as "old daddy," and he finds out that [[spoiler: Dodge actually is his biological child.]]
* Jimmy [=McNulty=] of ''TheWire'' ''Series/TheWire'' is the first dad. He doesn't exactly win in the getting-back-together sense, but otherwise the trope applies.



* This is part of the storyline of Mutatsu, the Tower Social Link in ''{{Persona 3}}'', minus the step-father.

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* This is part of the storyline of Mutatsu, the Tower Social Link in ''{{Persona ''VideoGame/{{Persona 3}}'', minus the step-father.
28th Jan '14 3:01:08 PM johnnye
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See also TheParentTrap.

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Contrast ParentWithNewParamour, where we usually root for the stepdad who's trying to win over the kids (in these stories, there [[DisappearedDad usually isn't a First Dad around]] to hog the sympathy).

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