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17th May '17 7:54:01 PM BigKlingy
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** This is also a big part of why Elizabeth rejects Mr Darcy's first proposal. While his feelings are genuine, he spends most of the proposal repeatedly pointing out her family's poor status and how sorry he feels for her, and she brutally tears into him for it. This helps Darcy realize his main character flaw, which is right there in the book's title.
29th Apr '17 9:49:13 PM SpaceHunterDrakeRedcrest
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* In one of [[ComicStrip/CalvinAndHobbes Spaceman Spiff's adventures]], he decided to MercyKill a blob which he felt was so stupid that it could only stare blankly ahead. In reality, it was Calvin shooting spitballs at Susie.
28th Apr '17 5:55:53 PM krimzonflygon2
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** Actively used as an intentional insult by Harry toward Voldemort in the fifth book, as he points out that for all of Voldemort's supposed superiority, he's an utterly pathetic individual. Considering [[ItsAllAboutMe what kind of person]] Voldy is, hinting that he's inferior at all is probably the most virulent insult someone could sling his way.

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** Actively used as an intentional insult by Harry toward Voldemort in the fifth book, as he points out that for all of Voldemort's supposed superiority, he's an utterly pathetic individual. Considering [[ItsAllAboutMe what kind of person]] Voldy is, hinting that he's inferior pitiable at all is probably the most virulent insult someone could sling his way.
28th Apr '17 5:54:26 PM krimzonflygon2
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** Actively used as an intentional insult by Harry toward Voldemort in the fifth book, as he points out that for all of Voldemort's supposed superiority, he's an utterly pathetic individual. Considering [[ItsAllAboutMe what kind of person]] Voldy is, hinting that he's inferior at all is probably the most virulent insult someone could sling his way.
-->''"You're the one who is weak. [[EvilCannotComprehendGood You will never know love or friendship.]]'' '''And I feel sorry for you.'''"
14th Apr '17 11:53:36 AM kquinn0830
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* Deconstructed in the ''Series/AllInTheFamily'' episode "The Games Bunkers Play". Throughout the series, Mike is a staunch liberal who supports civil rights for black people and acts friendly towards the Bunkers' black neighbor Lionel, whom he always wants to discuss racial issues with. During the game in the episode, Lionel reveals to Mike that he finds Mike's attitude towards him patronizing and he feels like Mike just sees him as a representative of all black people he can talk to. Mike tries to defend himself and point out how much of a bigot Archie is with his attitude. Lionel then points out that Archie's attitude is a result of him being an ignorant boob who doesn't know any better. Mike on the other hand is smart enough to know but treats Lionel less like an individual person than Archie does.
12th Apr '17 4:43:57 AM XFllo
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* ''Literature/{{Emma}}'': Mrs Elton, newly married to a local clergyman, immediately fancies herself the best, most respectable woman of the neighbourhood, even among the long-settled families of country gentry. She is quite rich and a new bride, so people in Highbury respect her and tolerate her to a certain degree, but she is insufferable. She forces her friendship and tries to mentor Jane Fairfax, who is an accomplished young lady, and because she is poor and of less consequence, she can't escape Mrs Elton's condescending good will as well as other characters.
12th Apr '17 4:12:30 AM XFllo
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* ''I Choose Life'', the autobiography of Sabine Dardenne. She spend the last part of her book talking about this trope.Kidnapped as kid, later saved, but experienced that people tried reducing her to a victim.

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* ''I Choose Life'', the autobiography of Sabine Dardenne. She spend spends the last part of her book talking about this trope.trope. Kidnapped as kid, later saved, but experienced that people tried reducing her to a victim.
12th Apr '17 4:11:48 AM XFllo
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* In ''Literature/TheBabySittersClub'' series, Stacey is this toward a new girl in one book.
* In ''3096 Days'' and ''I Choose Life'', the autobiographies of Natascha Kampusch and Sabine Dardenne, they both spend the last part of their books discussing this trope. Both women were kidnapped as kids, and after they got free they experienced that people tried to reduce them to a victimhood-role that was basically there for these people to feel better about themselves at the victim's expense.

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* %%* In ''Literature/TheBabySittersClub'' series, Stacey is this toward a new girl in one book.
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* In ''3096 Days'' and ''I Choose Life'', Days'', the autobiographies autobiography of Natascha Kampusch and Sabine Dardenne, they both spend the last part of their books discussing Kampusch, Natascha discusses this trope. Both women were She was kidnapped as kids, a child, and after they she got free they free, she experienced that people tried to reduce them her to a victimhood-role that was basically there for these people to feel better about themselves at the victim's expense. expense.
* ''I Choose Life'', the autobiography of Sabine Dardenne. She spend the last part of her book talking about this trope.Kidnapped as kid, later saved, but experienced that people tried reducing her to a victim.



** Hermione's treatment of House Elves also has more than a bit of this. Their BlueAndOrangeMorality makes them eager to serve humans, and they're offended by such notions as "freedom" and "payment". They like working for kind, understanding humans ''better'' than mistreatment, but they still (with only one exception that we see) prefer mistreatment to freedom, to the point where they literally consider it a FateWorseThanDeath. Hermione, believing that she knows what's best for them and that they'll like freedom "once they've got a taste of it," attempts to trick them into freeing themselves. They do not take it well. Dumbledore, by contrast, treats them kindly and respectfully and gladly agrees to pay the one House Elf who asks for it, but does not suggest freeing the majority who don't desire it.

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** Hermione's treatment of House Elves also has more than a bit of this.Elves. Their BlueAndOrangeMorality makes them eager to serve humans, and they're offended by such notions as "freedom" and "payment". They like working for kind, understanding humans ''better'' than mistreatment, but they still (with only one exception that we see) prefer mistreatment to freedom, to the point where they literally consider it a FateWorseThanDeath. Hermione, believing that she knows what's best for them and that they'll like freedom "once they've got a taste of it," attempts to trick them into freeing themselves. They do not take it well. Dumbledore, by contrast, treats them kindly and respectfully and gladly agrees to pay the one House Elf who asks for it, but does not suggest freeing the majority who don't desire it.



* The "Smug Marrieds" in both the novel and films in the BridgetJones series either passive aggressively shame/pity single peers (mostly women) when they aren't asking [[ConstantlyCurious "How's Your Love Life?"]] or making "tick tock tick tock" sounds when reminding Bridget about her biological clock.

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* The "Smug Marrieds" in both the novel and films in the BridgetJones Literature/BridgetJones series either passive aggressively shame/pity single peers (mostly women) when they aren't asking [[ConstantlyCurious "How's Your Love Life?"]] or making "tick tock tick tock" sounds when reminding Bridget about her biological clock.
8th Apr '17 10:16:45 AM nombretomado
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* [[http://llevatetodo.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Argumentacion-Quino.jpg This comic Strip]] from Joaquin Lavado (ComicStrip/{{Quino}}) is titled "They are JustLikeUs." Here comes a translation:

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* [[http://llevatetodo.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Argumentacion-Quino.jpg This comic Strip]] from Joaquin Lavado (ComicStrip/{{Quino}}) (Creator/{{Quino}}) is titled "They are JustLikeUs." Here comes a translation:
31st Mar '17 7:41:58 AM WaxingName
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Condescending Compassion is when a person feels themselves magnanimous enough not to hold someone's 'faults' against them openly. They can't help being a commoner, idiot, a mutant or simply '''wrong''' so it would simply be rude to treat them badly because of it. Instead, they resort to the ''much'' better idea that they should be sympathetic or even friendly to that lesser being, but of course they won't really take them seriously. In a way, the condescension or even pity is likely well intentioned, but if the target of this attitude realizes it (and they probably will) then [[DontYouDarePityMe they're naturally likely to be quite insulted or hurt]].

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Condescending Compassion is when a person feels themselves magnanimous enough not to hold someone's 'faults' against them openly. They can't help being a commoner, idiot, a mutant or simply '''wrong''' so it would simply be rude to treat them badly because of it. Instead, they resort to the ''much'' better idea that they should be sympathetic or even friendly to that lesser being, but of course they won't really take them seriously. In a way, the condescension or even pity is likely [[InnocentlyInsensitive well intentioned, intentioned]], but if the target of this attitude realizes it (and they probably will) then [[DontYouDarePityMe they're naturally likely to be quite insulted or hurt]].
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